Lack of common sense!?!?!?!?!

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So our middle school was doing staar testing and in order to go to the restroom you had to have a pass. So I got my pass and walked down to the restroom. There was like 2 kids standing up against the wall presumably waiting there turn. But you know me with my weird brain and I immediately thought "are they in trouble or something or are they waiting there turn to go to the bathroom? I see the pass on the table but does that mean only 1 kid can be in at a time? What do I do?" So I just put my pass next to the other pass and walked into the restroom. As I was about to go in the teacher moderator says "what are you doing?". "I am going to the bathroom". "Do you not see the pass on the table?" "Um yeah but I just didn't know if that meant" "Well come on kid seriously? just go stand against the wall with everyone else"

And I do stupid things like this alot were I feel like everyone else understands easily and I don't. Not just with socializing but with stuff like this too. Usually people just think I am either rude or stupid but I know I am not trying to be rude and I don't think I am stupid.
So I am wondering is it common for people with aspergers and/or nvld to do seemingly stupid stuff like that, or basically lack common sense?

I know I do stuff like that sometimes. I've had to try to become comfortable with just saying "Oops, sorry!" And then moving on.

Yes, that sort of thing has happened to me a lot throughout my entire life. It has resulted in many arguments where I was arguing with teachers or authority figures.

Yep. Much more so when I was a kid, but I still do it.

You have to ask questions kids if you are not sure.

Yeah I still do this sometimes. I don't always know there is a line because it's like I zone things out and I don't notice that there are people waiting. But if I see people standing, I ask them if they are in line so i will know if that is a line or not for something. I remember years ago I stand in line and this one mother says to me "Excuse me, but do you realize you just cut in front of these people?" and I looked and saw another line of people waiting and I go "Sorry. I thought this was the end of the line" and she goes "This is to let people through" and I go to the back of the real line. The reason for a gap was so people can walk through and I thought that was the end of the line.

Even normal people have asked me if I am in line or if this was a line or not or where the end of the line is.

Sometimes I have moments like that. I hate recognizing it. I get very embarrassed and feel terrible. I sometimes think about stupid little things like that years after they happen. More accurately, those memories sometimes just pop up. I really try to avoid thinking about this at all because it makes me feel very bad.

Yep. I often feel like an idiot for missing really obvious things that other people seem to 'just get'. I'm sure these things happen to everyone once in a while.

I have learned to ask... If I'm too anxious to ask, then I don't do it. Like with the bathroom, if I'm not sure if there's a line and I don't want to ask, I'll go somewhere else. I have too much anxiety about getting yelled at... It happened often ^.^;

Man, I have similar experiences as you. Many times when I was in grade school, I'd be scolded by my teachers telling me that I'm being disobedient when in fact I just cannot understand some verbal instructions. Even now that I'm in college. I had many bloopers/stupid moments often with friends and they just laugh at me when for me it's a serious matter. Things unsaid which are often implied by most people are very hard for me to deal in with because I have to ask it. Ask the "obvious" for them.

Yep - I have no common sense. Never have.