Sometimes i feel like i am not impaired "enough"

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Hello.
Is there anyone else here who is NOT socially impaired "enough" for people to understand that you actually have an impairment (that is serious enough for a diagnosis)
But you are socially impaired "enough" that people misunderstand you and think you are a jerk and that you are not raised well??

Oh yeah! I have been accused of being on drugs, rude and insensitive, etc. Just because I have learned to keep it together somewhat over the years and I am not obviously disabled, I've gotten a lot of that. Oh, did I mention weird? We just have to live with this I suppose.

even with a diagnoses....the majority of the time i look just fine. just cuz i drive, and have a job...and can do things...doesn't mean i am fine. they don't know that aside from going to said job, i am mostly in my room. i'll prolly never qualify for SSi or a service animal. maybe i should go hack my leg off or something. then i'll have their permission.

I'm socially impaired enough for it to be recognizable. However not as recognizable as something like classical autism.

Most people just mistake me for socially awkward, pscyhopathic (strangely), rude or I just hate people in general.

For me, same as Rudin. I can't pass for normal, but people might think I'm just really nerdy or socially awkward. Lots of people seem to think I am some kind of genius because of my awkwardness, like I'm too smart to be normal (I actually am a genius, but that is not because of my ASD).

I agree. I find that because I'm in honors classes and have a couple really good friends people refuse to believe that I have aspergers. I also have cerebral palsy so I can't really get get diagnosed because there's some overlap in "symptoms". My family was in denial for awhile about it. They mostly accept it now but they still look at me weird when I call myself "aspie"

I don't think I a genius per say, but I think I am extremely intelligent especially for my age. People with ASD have the highest IQs out of any societal group.

That's a generalization I'm not sure to be true, but the few aspies I've known have been much smarter than myself.

I think that there is more accommodating the world at large then accommodations for anyone on the spectrum, or anywhere outside of the umbrella of normal. It is sad...

That describes my Aspie partner in a nutshell. His family still refuses to believe he's not "normal" because he's learned to cope well enough to pass off, but even his family thinks he's just rude and hates people etc. when he isn't keen on going to yet another family gathering...and if even his family is that way, I'm sure you can imagine what people outside of his family are like! He's definitely one of those who learned to cope too well for most people to believe he's "impaired enough", but that coping takes a HUGE toll on him. Sometimes I wonder if he would've been happier had he not learned to cope so well, so that people acknowledged what was going on and didn't dismiss it so much? But then he wouldn't be able to cope when needed, so probably things are best how they are, though it is discouraging sometimes to have no one believe it.

I feel like it might be "easier" (not really easier but I can't think of a better word) if I had an obvious physical disability.

I had a mild stoke earlier this year and broke my upper arm in 2012. Most people have been extremely nice to me since I developed visible disabilities (gentle tone of voice, opening doors for me, patient if I am slow). That compared to it taking 55 years to get a diagnosis for my invisible disability.

I know what you mean. I've had people treat me like that when I had really obvious back problems and couldn't walk normally. Now that I think about it, on some level I was probably overworking myself to the point of injury because that's how I already felt inside and I wanted it to be visible.

I have had people treat me like that also, after seeing me have a meltdown, and although it can be humiliating to have a meltdown in front of anyone else, sometimes it also gives me a sense of relief to have it come out in the open and be visible.