Special interests?

Post Reply New Topic

So many times in life people tell me to go out and do things to get a group of friends and a girlfriend/social life basically. However what confuses and frustrates me about that is they always say stuff that I don't want to do like rock-climbing( I understand some people love it but its just boring to me). They scream "TRY IT WHO KNOWS YOU WILL LIKE IT" but when I suggest something I want to try to my parents(they are the ones who usually say this) like martial arts they shoot down and make fun of my idea. I have trouble finding my interests cause I am a geekier person. I love movies, videogames, anime and stuff like that. Problem is society and most people I know has deemed that a bad interest and there really isn't anything to do with that interest that I know of. Only real thing I do know is stuff like comic con but those only happen like every few months which from what I gather you want to spend frequent amounts of time doing an interest to gain a social life.

Is there anyone like me who doesn't truly have an interest?

Although I read the occasional novel, run moronically around my house, watch my football side play each week and listen to music everyday, I suspect I would be lying if I said that I derive much enjoyment from any of these activities. I am still relatively young at 25, yet I fear my almost nihilistic thoughts on life are akin to those of a broken man who is three times my age. It's been this way for over 5 years now, and it's only really my closest family members and trivial distractions that have sustained me.

It's immensely difficult for me to identify anything that is of any true significance in life. Maybe my brain is damaged but I can't seem to shake the thought that everything is utterly meaningless and therefore pointless.

I think the problem isn't "try it, you might like it". That's actually a really good idea and I've found listening to that advice is wise. Even if you don't end up liking it, you'll know that in the future.

The real issue is that your parents are shooting down your ideas. Not cool, and it doesn't really help anyone involved.

Of course, you have some bargaining power here. You can offer an exchange. "You wanted me to do X, right? I'll do that for you if you'll support me doing Y". I don't know your parents or you and can't offer advice on the best way to go about saying this, but something to that effect could work well. You do have to actually follow through, though; if you agree to do something then do it! That shows good faith on your part.

Is there anyone like me who doesn't truly have an interest?

Although I read the occasional novel, run moronically around my house, watch my football side play each week and listen to music everyday, I suspect I would be lying if I said that I derive much enjoyment from any of these activities. I am still relatively young at 25, yet I fear my almost nihilistic thoughts on life are akin to those of a broken man who is three times my age. It's been this way for over 5 years now, and it's only really my closest family members and trivial distractions that have sustained me.

It's immensely difficult for me to identify anything that is of any true significance in life. Maybe my brain is damaged but I can't seem to shake the thought that everything is utterly meaningless and therefore pointless.