Does worrying about how you are socially ever go away?

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I see my social rules side as Twilight Sparkle going down a checklist say this/not that mark off then down the list. Or chores same principle but I'm always having a "social checklist" with family what to say/do etc. It's sometimes draining. Does it ever go away or get better? I'm nearly 30 and I have days where I go over my social checklist so much by bed time I'm beat!

I like the name Zelda. You don't have to use a checklist with me.

All you have to do is be nice.

I don't worry about the fact that most people would rather be alone than with me.

May as well worry about the force of gravity pulling me down.

It's just something that is, that's all.

i am constantly aware of my tendency toward social awkwardness while i'm around people.

Worrying about anything never makes the problem go away, so rather than having the worrying and the problem, just give up worrying, it will never achieve anything, that way you only have the problem, and if you cant change that, you cant change it, simple as that.
The sooner you realise this, the sooner you can enjoy the aspects of life that are within your reach.

hasn't yet for me

No. Not yet. I go through periods where I trick myself into thinking I don't have a problem by avoiding most situations but that doesn't last long. The realisation that I do have serious social issues can be a bit traumatic after months of deluding myself. It's less painful in the long term to be realistic and accepting about your difficulties.

That's not to say you should do nothing but comparing yourself to others your own age is destructive. I look back at my life and I can find very few actions that I could have performed differently given my coping skills and mental health at the time. I can't really see how things could have happened differently and I don't think I can really blame myself as a result.