Mini meltdowns or something?

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Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, like I'm going to cry, and talking makes it worse most of the time and usually I just want to be left alone. This is usually triggered by something that pushes me over the edge, usually it takes me a long time to even figure out why I'm upset. I know that something about the trigger, no matter how stupid it is, is related to something deep down that bothers me. It feels like I just get pushed over some threshold and feel really weird.

I'm wondering if these are meltdowns, or like mini-meltdowns? I don't get violent or anything, though if it got really bad and involved someone harassing me it might. When it happens I feel really sad and upset and it's all very irrational, then it goes away after being alone for a while. Sometimes I say things that hurt people, or do things that hurt their feelings though. I don't like it, I feel like I can't just control myself like normal people and I just lose it sometimes and have to get away from everything to feel better. It doesn't happen very often normally, unless I'm really depressed.

You can get quite a bit better with that if you're willing to work on it. A counselor or therapist who is willing to look at specific thoughts and behaviors with you, could be a big help. Some of it is being able to correctly identify and name your feelings, and part of it is replacing damaging or inaccurate thoughts with productive thoughts. And finally, learning some self-calming behaviors, like meditation, can be a big help.

Yep that's a meltdown all right. Best advice I can give you is that if you sense one on the horizon try and find yourself some alone space and find something pleasant to occupy your mind.

I'm sure that would help, but not everyone can afford a therapist... Regardless I'd likely prefer to try to learn about this myself. I always figured there wasn't much to be done except watch your own thinking to make sure you're not "making mountains out of molehills" and to try not to focus on things that bother you when you feel like you could have a meltdown.



Okay, thanks, I mostly just wanted to know if what I described sounded like a meltdown. That's good advice, I think I have done that before, but at the same time I'm not usually thinking along the lines of avoiding meltdowns... So, maybe I should try to be more careful. What do you do when you can't just go off and be alone because you're in a public place or just away from home?

I get the sense you're a younger person. If that's correct then you will learn your triggers in time. When you've found what the triggers to the meltdowns are you can start to avoid them as you see them.

As for in public, that's a tough one, it's never happened to me. I guess I'd do it like they do it in the movies, find a restroom stall and go bat s**t crazy in there. People may think you're psychotic, but it's not like they know who you are because you're hidden in a stall. And I guess if anyone asked what was going on while I was in the stall I'd just say I had some really spicy foreign food-- that should be enough to keep them from meddling further.

edit: ah I saw your age when I posted-- you are young, so you will eventually find those triggers.