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* I have a tendency to over share my thoughts my views... not because I feel or act self absorbed but because I like to share information.

* I can't read peoples facial expressions... apparently, I do not know the difference between an uncomfortable smile & a real one. *** What does a smile mean anyway??? Happy? Uncomfortable? Irritated? Go Away?
The eye roll thing people do really bugs the heck out of me ~ If you want me or another person to go away just say it... (I guess that's rude... so rolling your eyes is better?)

* I am OCD~ish, however, having 2 teenage children & a husband has taught me that I can only express my OCD's in my space, & with my things ~ because they sure as heck aren't going to go by any labeling or color coding system. That would be like reinventing the wheel. I have a walk in closet big enough to be a small room I tv. w/ DVD's, PC, a comfy chair & ottoman, book shelves, my clothing ect & recently have added a space to do my makeup & hair. In there it is clean no kid's fingerprints, no mess on the floor, no ones crap all over... Lock the door & everyone has to stay out of there because I do not like when my stuff is out of order or worse yet missing. They continue to create whole new reasons for a complete & utter "MELTDOWNS".

* I do have a heightened interest in vampires, paranormal activity, SciFi & the likes. I wish I was a Vampire I can think of a few NT's I would bleed dry... ( I guess, I am not suppose to say that)

* I do HAVE to learn everything there is about any given interest that I find intrigueing at that moment. Once I absorb the information concept or idea I remember it and recall the information at a later date.

* I do not relate well to people~ I find most NT's chatter boring at best & sometimes feel like screaming " who gives a crap."

* I can immerse myself into video games (PS4's ~ Oblivion) and if given the chance not come out for days.

* I apparently, over analyze everything.

* I am hyper sensitive to critism.

* I do prefer the company of animals to people.

* I have a tendency to studder, speak too quickly & my thoughts flow too quickly for others to comprehend... My husband says it like walking in on a conversation 2 other people are having...

* I would rather stay home then be anywhere else.

* Clothing is an issue ~ I have a tendency to wear the same colors ( Black White & Plum) same/similar styles same/or similar materials. Usually a shot sleeved V neck fitted T Shirt, Levi 550 Jeans, Black Converse sneakers, and a Black leather Jacket with matching purse... with matching black leather wallet, eye glass case & makeup case...

and finally!! !

I have NO FILTER!! ! I can't seem to control what comes out of my mouth. I try I really do but so far with little success!! !

holy crap I guess I am weird ! !!


How weird are you???

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You're not weird, just Aspie.

Rolling eyes does not always mean go away. It kind of means 'That's stupid'.

Well, you certainly hit the highlights ! !

I think it's pretty common for us who are AS to like animals. NT's think of animals differently. The Missus and I were talking about that horse at a Yank racecourse that broke it's leg. Our son-in-law shouted at us, "It's just a hoesr!!" He meant as far he was concerned horses have no emotions, and if one breaks a leg, you dispose of it. We were shocked ...

Your not weird at all hun your a normal aspie just like the rest of us.


P.S. Do NTs ever get onto you because you have no filter they do me grrr so annoying sometimes.

I also struggle with this, both for the reason you state and because I'm never really sure what information should be shared, and what information should be supressed.


Oh good grief! I roll my eyes when I'm trying to think/concentrate...this may explain why I get negative reactions when someone says something that either I need to think hard about to properly understand, or which needs a response that requires a bit of thinking.

People use smiles for all sorts of purposes, but I've no notion how one is supposed to detect one kind from another.

I had (previously) assumed since others all expected me to differentiate between 'genuine pleasure' smiles and 'strained polite' smiles that they would be able to do the same with me. Testing indicates they cannot; in fact often real smiling (on my part) is not accepted as real, while people take my version of the 'polite strained' smile as real, as often as not. I wonder to what extent non-autistics really interpret each other's smiles correctly and to what extent they just think they do. Either they are deluding themselves about the extent to which they 'read' each other, or they fail at 'reading' our emotions just as we struggle with 'reading' theirs. I suspect the latter is more likely.

I do not think I have too many ODC type behaviours and symptoms (although I accept that may be the result of perceptual failure on my part rather than actually indicative of an absence of OCD type behaviors).


Hehe. I quite fancy being an 'Anne Rice' style vampire, although on the whole I think I'd prefer to be an Aes Sedai.

Yes, the need to learn the information and ruminate on it can be quite distracting for me. I also have difficulty 'filtering' talk about my interests and once I get started talking about them, my ability to stop is limited.


I share these traits with you.
The conversation thing really kind of irks me. Most of these conversations seem to me to centre around random mundane trivia of no interest even to the participants (in the conversation), yet apparently talk about my interests is a big bad boring no-no. Even people who admit the conversational topics they rely on are boring still criticize me if I bore them with my interests. I can only surmise that the problem is not being boring, but rather what kind of boring one is being.

I can be if I notice (the criticism), but I'm also a bit hypo sensitive (in the sense that often I do not realise I am being criticized), especially when indirect language is used, until someone tells me later that I was being criticized.


I experience this (aside from the husband thing; I'm confident your husband has never commented on my verbal communication propensities).


This is something that seems to increase (with me) the more I understand socialisation. It bothered me less that I was poor at it when I did not know anything about decoding the reactions of others, because I usually was oblivious to a lot of negative reactions that now I've had them explained to me I'm often able to recognize. Now I not only recognise negative reactions more readily, but am also aware that a lot of what I thought was 'random noise' (in social interaction) is actually comprehensible as meaningful communication to others. It's hard to be comfortable when you know that everyone else around you is constantly sending and receiving information that is 'invisible' to you.

I have a restricted wardrobe also.


I know that feeling....better than I'd like to.

Deos that count???

I duh moment for me

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I used to be the SAME!



I've had the same problem.



I've been the same



Sad to say, I do also.



That is STILL often true of me.



Same here



Not with games, but I am the same!



Same here



I guess I could say the same



SOMETIMES!



Yep



I generally don't change styles either!



I used to often do that. 8-(

I also struggle with this, both for the reason you state and because I'm never really sure what information should be shared, and what information should be supressed. Exactly, I never know if I have given too little, enough, or too much, very confusing.

Oh good grief! I roll my eyes when I'm trying to think/concentrate...this may explain why I get negative reactions when someone says something that either I need to think hard about to properly understand, or which needs a response that requires a bit of thinking. Pandd ... Oh No someone had stated it meant the comment that person made was stupid.

People use smiles for all sorts of purposes, but I've no notion how one is supposed to detect one kind from another.
I have given up on smiling unless I smile for natural reason, if I try to fake it it looks like I have tasted something foul.

I do not think I have too many ODC type behaviours and symptoms (although I accept that may be the result of perceptual failure on my part rather than actually indicative of an absence of OCD type behaviors). Pandd Does this comment mean you are unable to establish OCD behaviors or they are to inconsistant to be considered OCD.

Hehe. I quite fancy being an 'Anne Rice' style vampire, although on the whole I think I'd prefer to be an Aes Sedai. Oh definately the hot sexy kinda of vampire (ie Interview with a Vampire ) rather than the hideous trolls that are of (ie VanHelsing)

Yes, the need to learn the information and ruminate on it can be quite distracting for me. I also have difficulty 'filtering' talk about my interests and once I get started talking about them, my ability to stop is limited.
Yep me too

The conversation thing really kind of irks me. Most of these conversations seem to me to centre around random mundane trivia of no interest even to the participants (in the conversation), yet apparently talk about my interests is a big bad boring no-no. Even people who admit the conversational topics they rely on are boring still criticize me if I bore them with my interests. I can only surmise that the problem is not being boring, but rather what kind of boring one is being. Chatter ... I really don't think people can stand being alone in thougt, without chatter. i think they chatter to fill space and time. I hate small talk.... How many times can you talk about the weather???

I can be if I notice (the criticism), but I'm also a bit hypo sensitive (in the sense that often I do not realise I am being criticized), especially when indirect language is used, until someone tells me later that I was being criticized. I wish I was oblivious to the criticsm... it would make like easier

I experience this (aside from the husband thing; I'm confident your husband has never commented on my verbal communication propensities). No he would probable be totally confused if you & I were to speak. And be amazed that there was someone else that speaks like me

Now I not only recognise negative reactions more readily, but am also aware that a lot of what I thought was 'random noise' (in social interaction) is actually comprehensible as meaningful communication to others. It's hard to be comfortable when you know that everyone else around you is constantly sending and receiving information that is 'invisible' to you. Its still random noise to me... for me it's kind of like being in a social group where everyone speaks Spanish... I get about as much useable information from either

I have a restricted wardrobe also. I am no fashion queen that is for sure. Color, Comfort, preferably without tags.

Thats so funny, I know what you mean about people smiling.. sometimes I think they are secretly laughing at me in their head.. I only smile when something is funny. Smiling any other time just looks sinister when i see people do it.. ive never liked it when people smile for no reason.. when people smile at me for no reason i usually get irritated.. Ahaha!

Yes, because if you do not share enough information, that's interpreted as being aloof or even 'snobby', so it's a lose-lose proposition either way.


It's ironic that I am most likely to roll my eyes when someone says intelligent yet by doing so it seems I'm indicating that they've said something stupid.

That's how fake smiles feel on my face, but surprisingly no one looking seems to notice.

I have some 'inflexible' behaviors and some 'non-functional' adherence to routines. I'm not really certain what behaviors are classed as OCD. Also, some of my own behavior just does not 'stand out' to me as out of the ordinary until someone else tells me it is, and inflexible adherence to routines is one of the behavior types that others usually point out to me. Because OCD behaviors are might be similar (based on my limited knowledge of OCD) to inflexible behaviors that I am poor at recognising as atypical, I'm not confident about my reliability in self-detecting the kinds behaviors that might be entailed in OCD.


They certainly do not seem to tolerate an absence of chatter when in each other's company. Unless one is a farmer, agriculturist/gardener, fisherman who has outdoor activities planned, I fail to see the fascination with the weather. Ironically, this chatter about nothing stuff seems to be both an obsession and compulsion amongst the 'socially adept'.

Only until someone tells you in excruciating detail that X was having a go at you, that everyone else knew it, and all were greatly amused by your obvious clueless-ness and continue to remind each other about it as a source of ongoing conversation, humor and entertainment. It's humiliating. I'd rather realise when it happens so I do not make a memorable fool of myself, or remain in blissful ignorance.

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Tags are awful.

I'll just compare me to you I'm undiagnosed personally, but for some reason this seems like a good time waster

Well, you're definately not alone, this is me also right down to the vampire fasination (I've had that since I was a kid).

I've been trying to increase the color spectrum in my wardrobe, and the variety of clothes I wear, all I can say is that it's taking ALOT of effort, I still pick my clothes mostly by feel though...if I'm not comfortable, I'm stressed...period. My wardrobe has always basically been black, grey, & olive drab...those are still my favorite colors.

I stammer, stutter, and get stuck talking to other people.

Totally hooked on video games.

Can't cram in enough knowledge fast enough on a subject that interests me.

Love being at home.

Analyze everything...and sometimes everyone.

I say things and 3 minutes later I'm saying to myself..."I can't believe you just said that." It just comes out, and it seems to get worse the older I get.

I perfur to be alone.
I have OCD traits.
I have obsessions.
I don't get along with people.
My obsessions come first.

- I try to keep eye contact, well when the situation demands it like in interviews.
- In other places people aren't that bothered, like at work, when people just focus on computers or paperwork.
- Nowadays it's just the anxiety that kicks in in the mornings when its either the first day at work or so tired you can't be bothered to get out of bed, or not looking forward to a new environment, one that could potentially be hostile.
- I might have a minor OCD, correcting other peoples mistakes, seeing something that doesn't fit, obsessed with DIY/home improvement, cleaning things more than I should but most other stuff is a mess.
- Forget something someone said 5 minutes ago, feels like i'm starting to get early alzheimers, family think i'm crazy.
- Hate my current surroundings even though i'm used to them.
- Can't get past basic knowledge of anything.
- Get disturbed by the quietest of sounds, high pitches or something erratic like banging or barking from miles away.
- I also stammer if I speak too fast, most people consider me inaudible, like i've got a broken voice box.
- Favourite colour is purple.
- Star sign is complete opposite of what I am. (not saying i believe in that stuff though)
- Video games are the only break from reality I have, and only life I have, so without games, I would have no life.
- Regretting the most strange things I said the day before, even when such things aren't regrettable at all.
- Mental being seems to be about 10 years behind my physical being, I still view things like a child, sometimes get treated like one aswell.
- I can't hold a smile, so many bad memories plague my mind, mostly from a traumatic and rough childhood, sure I do laugh here and there, but smiling, is just impossible -- a barrier to employment I might add.
- I pretend to understand humour, the only one I know is slapstick humour, even then that gets old after a while.
- Only been to one nightclub in my life, hated it, never going to one again.
- My eardrums have been totally destroyed by disco's, parties and ....dubstep!, one good thing at least I can handle now.

-I am extremely sensitive to loud noises and bright things etc. Sometimes people whisper gets me to self-stimulate myself.
-I don't make any eye contact really. Sometimes I occasionally glance at my friends but eye contact is really hard for me.
-I am pretty bad at identifying sarcasm in certain circumstances. If what they are saying makes sense I think it is sincere.
-I am okay at identifying basic facial expressions. I also usually subconsciously make wild guesses, but nothing definite usually.
-I talk a lot to people I feel comfortable talking to. If someone I don't like, or am uncomfortable is there I very rarely talk.