What's with me that people find complicated?

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I was just recently sharing my thoughts about how I think of our generation now and how technology is causing us destruction and so on. I have this belief that everything is connected. But when I shared my thoughts to this friend (which I assumed to be my weird friend who could understand me) I didn't really expect her to tell me that she envies me with my thoughts because that's how I think, that she apologized that she's not a better friend for me because Idk. Idk. Idk. why? I was thinking ever since that my thoughts are similar to other people that they might also think about such. I really assumed that there is something in them that can somehow connect to me. But now, idk. Maybe, not all people will really get me. I've been quite an introverted thinker, and ever since I got stucked with the belief that my thoughts are something people can fathom. But I guess... Idk.


I used to think that I'm so dumb because I cannot catch up learning the way other students do. But, why do I think this way. Why can't most of them understand my thoughts. Am I normal?

Do any of you relate to my experience?

I know I feel like I am not a good friend to someone who is "way beyond me" whether in the ability to think or in experience or whatever, like I'm not enough. I imagine that those friends will toss me away because I will be boring or silly or in another way not provide what they need. Maybe this is how your friend is feeling?

If you still consider her a good friend even after finding out she doesn't think the same way as you, then give her lots of reassurance that you still value her and the friendship you share.

As far as other people not thinking the same way you do, I think you need to get used to it. It's not a bad thing, really. If anything, you have more to talk about with someone *if* that person is willing to listen, and *if* that person is not going to take things personally (like thinking he or she is dumb if you share something that makes you look remarkably brilliant.)

It can be a benefit to the world to look at things differently, if one can figure out how to harness that in some practical way that other people can use. Looking at the world differently is the way of discovery and invention.

On a personal level, looking at the world differently adds a lot of interest. Some people are threatened by that, though. They think when you say something "different", you are communicating that they are dumb or wrong. It's important to understand that that is often the default reaction and take care to communicate that you do NOT think the other person is dumb or wrong (unless you are purposefully challenging someone's views.)