Never been in a relationship I am odd even among the odd?

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In my early 40s now never been in any kind of intimate relationship.

Please tell my I am not alone among the ASD community in this regard?

You're certainly not odd, they'll be many that haven't had one.

I've never been in any type of relationship, though I'm only 20, however I don't see that changing anytime soon and definitely not an intimate one ever.

I know an NT man who is nearly 30 and has never had a girlfriend and is a virgin. I know it's younger than you but he still feels like the only one who hasn't had a girlfriend, out of everybody he knows. He gets very depressed about it. He knows a lot of single girls but none of them are interested in him in that way and are just casual friends. He still lives at home with his parents as well.

Don't worry, there are people out there who haven't ever been in an intimate relationship who are middle-aged like you. I know most people have, but there are people out there who haven't. And you will probably receive some replies here from Aspie people who are in the same situation as you.

I definitely know how you feel. I know I'm only 25 and I have a loving boyfriend, but I still know exactly how you feel and how you want to talk to others who are similar, to make you feel like you're not the only one. In fact I know how you feel so much, that I wish I could find somebody for you. You're most probably a wonderful person. It's a shame you haven't met anyone to share that with.

Some people think that only young people find relationships and that nobody will want to look at anyone past age 40. Ignore anybody who says that, as it is BS. You're never too old to fall in love.

I knew at your age I would never be in a relationship also but I did not know about ASD.

Life is full of ups and downs but I have had plenty of fun in the last 20 years or so.

At least you know more about yourself then people of my generation did.

Do you have any desire for an intimate relationship?

If not, I wouldn't worry about it. You are you. You'll have an intimate relationship when you're ready.

Waiting for the right girl is much better than forcing yourself to have something you really don't want.

No, you are not alone. I am about to turn 58 with the same non-history as you.

Nah you're not alone. I'm 21 and have never been in a real relationship and I doubt that will change for quite some time if ever. I haven't meet anyone at college so far and doubt I will in the remaining time. Once college is over my access to large numbers of people my own age will be drastically reduced to null. Doesn't hurt to bad though, I can live this way. I suppose online dating is an option, but I'm not to keen on that idea though. I do have my eye on one person in my life in particular though, but highly doubtful anything will come of it.

C'mon, Buddy.

I bet you look like Lord Byron--Lord Byron could get all the chicks...and you can, too.

I'm about 15 years younger than you, but I have never had a romantic relationship or been on a date. I feel like I am missing an important part of the human experience.

I know NTs who have never been in a relationship, and as far as I know, nobody chastises them for it. I certainly don't. It doesn't determine your worth as a person.

You are not alone. 48 and no relationships.

You're not odd among the odd. Everyone is unique in their own way.

I wouldn't say that it's odd personally. I too have never had a relationship and I don't see that changing in the foreseeable future, although like a few others posted above, I'm younger (20 in a few days) so my input may not have as much of an impact on you- but I would say there's nothing to worry about, it's completely normal.

I've never been in a relationship. I haven't had any friends for years either. I'm more interested in making friends than having a romantic relationship but it's difficult to find people I have anything in common with.

Thanks for all the replies.

Too be honest I don't want a relationship but I worry it makes me really stand out.

If you don't want one, don't get into one.

If you get into a relationship you don't want to get into, it will be counterproductive for you both.