NTs and their stupid seasonal dress standards

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I hate the way people you don't know judge you because you're not wearing a t-shirt on a day that's not that hot.

Today I had a sweater on and a scarf, not a winter scarf but more of a thin scarf that I love because it's trendy and goes with what I had on.

But as I was walking through a crowded town, people didn't like me wearing a scarf. People stared at me as they passed, then one young man among a group of others walked by and muttered "is it that cold, darlin'?" And his cronies laughed.

What is it with people? Why can't they just leave me alone? It's autumn, been raining and is rather chilly out. And anyway I've seen people wearing t-shirts when it's literally freezing, as in 2 degrees C, but yet that's acceptable.

Don't worry about it, Joe. If you want to wear a scarf, wear a scarf. It's none of their business.

I never wear a scarf, by the way, even if it's minus 10 out. People look at me funny. It's their problem.

That should be your attitude: it's THEIR problem, and go about your business.

Like you I generally wear what suits me and how I happen to be feeling. I often wear scarves, particularly the light kind that you describe, and have quite a collection that are useful in the autumn, the spring and even the British summer! People in the UK have little idea when it comes to clothes; I lived in Paris for several years, where the dress sense is much more finely tuned - if there's a nip in the air, out come the silk scarves and light pullovers.

Just wear what you like.

It's quite annoying. I've often been the one who keeps a sweater or jacket on when everyone else has already taken theirs off. I sometimes get the, "Aren't you hot?" question.

People made fun of me for wearing a jacket in the period in which spring transitioned into summer.

As long as you have a good mentality regarding that sort of thing you should be fine.

It's not the "seasonal dress code" that's the problem - it's that people think everyone should be like them and abide by what they think is "normal."

It's attitudes that are the issue, not the actual doing of (most) things. These people who make fun of others for what they are wearing are just rude and arrogant. You know, sometimes I think people were pretty dumb things. But, it's not up to me to point it out! If someone wants to make themselves look foolish, that's his or her problem.

BTW, I don't think wearing long sleeves and a light scarf, even on a hot day, makes someone look foolish.

I don't mind when I get asked innocently "Aren't you hot?" This usually just tells me someone is a little bewildered at my choice of outfit and can't imagine being comfortable in it.

But the guy who said, "Is it that cold, darlin'?" is obviously a loser.
I would think:
First of all, one person has the right to call me "darlin'", and it ain't you, buddy.
Second, back off! What right do you have to question my clothing choices!

Thankfully, I don't usually get comments like that anymore (just the innocent ones, from people I know.) Sometimes I wish I could come up with quick comebacks that would take down the other person, like making fun of their hair or something like that. I usually can't, and it's probably for the better. I don't want to start any fights (or keep one going, as I think this guy in question was the provoker!)

Our Brian's are wired differently so it makes sense that many of us will experience temperature differently or have temperature sensitivities.

To be fair, I think it is a bit odd to wear clothing that isn't ugh weather appropriate so you might expect comments about that but I don't think there is that much variation in the weather in the UK anyways is there? Like here in the desert, it would be a little odd to see someone in warm clothing when it is 110F outside but you'll probably also see people in warmer clothing relative to elsewhere in the country when it the temperature gets more normal It is kind of annoying since there are a lot of clothes I like that I basically can't wear anymore in the climate except maybe a few times a year in the winter, but the variance in temperature is just too extreme.

Joe, that guy sounds like a pass-remarkable tosser, probably still reminiscing about his fortnight escape to the sun in Ibiza.

Summer is over, the leaves are changing colour, there is a chill in the air, and light scarves are great.

I only dress for functionality. I have one jacket that I wear all year long whether is raining or snowing. It's a windbreaker and if it gets too cold I just put on a flannel shirt underneath it or my sweatshirt hoodie. I'm trying to convert all my shirts to long sleeve, I can wear them anytime of year, gets to hot I can just push the sleeves up. I don't wear shorts anymore, all I wear is jeans basically.

They were having a bonding moment at your expense. Typical nt a**hole behaviour.

Sounds like you were wearing what you wanted to, not what fashion dictates. Nuts to anyone who doesn't like it.

Usually I do let fashion dictate but today I just felt like wearing one of my favourite scarfs.

And anyway I saw people in coats, like real winter coats. Did they get hassled because of it too?

Extreme temperature would be different, like if it was a heatwave on a typical summer day, then people might wonder why I'm wearing a scarf, although I don't wear too much when it's hot. I wear shorts, t-shirt and sandals.

Anyway, I could be wearing a scarf for loads of different reasons, like I could have a big cut on my neck what I don't wish to show, or an infectious mole or anything.

Must be a regional thing; I can't imagine an adult making unsolicited comments on strangers' clothing choices. It seems like crappy social skills.