Problems with acting "calm and cool"

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I'm often told that I need to be more calm and cool when being around people. Although I'm shy, I can be quite eccentric around people once I feel comfortable with them. For example, I find it hard to act calm and cool with my boyfriend. I can't help myself. I get a twinge of excitement and I have to show it by almost bouncing around, voice raised and very high levels of affection.

I know that I'm doing it, and I know that sometimes it's not always the right time to be hyper and overaffectionate, but I still feel like I have to do it. It's my main social quirk. Again, it's not from being unable to read people. It's just hyperactivity.

Does anyone else find it difficult to be calm and cool around people?

I honestly don't think that sounds like a bad thing.

I am rarely animated about anything, but when I am I think I may come over too enthusiastic or too loud. No one has told me not to do it though.

I've been like that with my girlfriends. It's like it just builds up and all of a sudden I'm shouting "I love you!" while trying to squeeze them to death. I don't think it's a bad thing and definitely like it when someone does it back.

I'm the same way with other people. I'm pretty shy at first, then when I get comfortable I like to act really silly and ridiculous.