Entertain my fantasy?

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So I have no desire to have a bunch of friends, I just want one best one. Particularly a girl friend, and i have a plan of how I might be able to get one, if you are not busy, please entertain it and give me your thoughts

So I am going in for testing for ASD on the October 14th, and I am hoping I get diagnosed with it, as I believe I have it. Anyway, I am a long term thinker, and I know I want a partner in life. But I know it will have to be a VERY specific person, probably (not a absolute must though) a autistic person. It would have to be someone I feel comfortable being awkward around. Someone who is just as weird socially (and in general) as me. Someone who does not care I am awkward. Someone I can have awkward silences with and neither of us feel uncomfortable. Someone I can completely be myself around and not feel uncomfortable (have yet to meet a person in my life that I am COMPLETELY comfortable around). We would HAVE to have a similar thinking process and outlook on life. Like everyone else I know I feel like I am adapting to there mind set and views, it CANNOT be like that with her. We both need to feel different and odd, but comfortable with each other.

So I am thinking if I get diagnosed with ASD I will try to get put into a social skills group or something where I could meet some autistic people my age (15) and maybe find the person I am looking for there. Yes I know it is a long shot but hey I am lonely lol.

So what are your thoughts on my mentality here?

Sounds like a good plan

I'm lonely too, so I know how that feels. Oh, and don't worry about the mentality thing: we are all madmen [or madwomen] running around the world trying to understand all the weird humans out there. Hmm...an autism support group...I wonder how I could find one around my area?

I think your idea is an excellent one OP: that's exactly how I met my current (first) boyfriend. We joined the same social skills group together, and he asked me out. We are mutually understanding of each other's peculiarities, and frequently sit perfectly comfortably in silence for long periods of time. I can be exact and blunt in my communication without beating about the bush because I know he won't understand or appreciate confusing or unclear communication, just as I don't. It's actually quite an ideal situation. I wish you much luck with your plan!

See, even a Borg Girl lost in space can find love! [Nice username, by the way.]

It's good that you're thinking about what you want in a partner. Please be open to revising that list over time. As you get to know yourself more and get more experience with relationships, your idea of the perfect mate will change. Like a previous poster mentioned, it is a part of the growing up process that everyone goes through.

I'm genuinely happy for you, StarTrekker! I just find it nice that at least something is going right with the world these days. [So what happened with the Seven/Chakotay thing? It was kind of random...]