Onessioms causing trouble differentiating what's important

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27 Oct 2015, 4:54 pm

Do you often find that your obessions or a string desire to experience something and the drive/attemp to experience whatever it is often causes you to sacrifice things that are important and you dont realise it until later? For example when i was younger i wanted to get laid really bad and also have a gf. I was i essessed with wanting these things to happeh i almost put it above everything else for a while, even school, job, and money. I learned later that school was important after the ibedsion passed but i know i have a tendancy to do that. Do you find you have this problem too?


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27 Oct 2015, 4:58 pm

Well yes I think so but I'm not too sure what I'm saying yes to to be honest so I'll just hope the question was what I think it was and pray.


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28 Oct 2015, 12:58 am

That's not an uncommon revelation that many people - NT or AS/ASD - have as they mature.

Update: I was not interpreting the 'obsessions' listed as AS/ASD narrow focused interests, but rather as the typical life focuses many people have as young adults. If I misinterpreted, I apologize.


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28 Oct 2015, 1:29 am

Why do you write "obsessions" a different way each time? Sorry, but as a good speller I do recognise typos easily and become bothered by them.

But anyway, I think it's normal for adolescents to put their love lives and social lives first before anything else.

But when you grow up and have responsibilities, it's stupid to put trivial obsessions first. Well, that's from an NT's point of view, not mine. I remember when I was on job-seekers, and I was going to the town with my mum to hand in a CV and cover letter into a restaurant that were advertising for staff. But I was in such a frantic panic to see a bus go by (because that was what I was obsessed with), that we rushed out of the house, only to discover that I arrived to the town without my CV or a cover letter. I had forgotten them. My mum yelled at me like, "so seeing buses go by is more important than getting a job! I can't believe you let your stupid obsessions rule your life!"

And I was like, "um...but buses ARE more important to me than getting a silly job..."


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03 Nov 2015, 7:59 pm

They are typos.


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03 Nov 2015, 8:32 pm

Yes, my obsession with a certain musician/band is so strong that I got caught up in the excitement of him releasing a new album, then got more hyped up that he was going on tour, was flappyhappy at him coming to hte USA, and made it the priority to drive 8 hours round trip to see him when he was in my area because SPECIAL INTEREST OBSESSION!! !

I missed my son's senior prom because I was at that show.

In retrospect all these years later I feel bad about that. :oops:


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