do your emotions seem to be more intense compared to others

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Do you find that your emotions see way more magnified and intense compared to other people. For me this seems to be the case. When I happen to get a job and laugh, BOY I laugh! When something scares me, I not only feel scared by I avoid the same situation at all costs. When someone makes me happy like compliments me- boy I'm happy. When I watch movies the feelings I get are intense. My life seems pretty much intense on a daily basis. I kind of like it however, the most challenging thing about this is dealing with my anger. When I'm angry- boy I get angry and it's an emotion that is hard to deal with in general. When I'm pissed, the anger seems peak at a level that is hard to deal with. For example, I usually have a harder time forgiving people, or things that upset me in the past. I know it's possible to forgive anyone and everyone can do it. I think it's possible to not be upset at anything when looking at the proper rational. But with me I think my anger level seems to spike up at such a high level sometimes, it's harder to focus on the rational that gets you out of the anger like most people who don't have it as intense. I've always worked very hard to control my anger, I've made progress but still I get very mad and for me, it seems like it takes ALOT of effort to snap out of it. Do you as an aspies relate to this as well? If so please share us your experience.

I cannot understand art for the life of me when it comes to drawings or paintings. When it comes to feeling strong emotions I am pretty much a Sith Lord moved by strong emotions and passions.

When it comes to music I look for music that can move me not in the terms of dancing but more of less the power of the song that it can move you

I find sometimes my emotions can be very intense for an adult, particularly my anger and frustration. I don't seem to be able to calm myself or express the emotion in a constructive, mature way so I turn it inward. Exercise helps a little and relaxation but sometimes I swear to myself which also seems to help. I think culturally anger is the most difficult emotion to deal with. We are thought not to express anger in any way. Life on the spectrum can be frustrating so it's natural that some of us have difficulties with this.

Anger is a sign that something is wrong and your needs aren't being met. However sometimes your needs can't be met or there is no solution to a problem. In that situation you can use your mind to reframe the situation. There's no point in being angry about things you can't control or influence including the behaviour of other people.

I do feel more anxious than other people. Like at work when I'm doing something that makes me feel anxious, and I tell people how I'm feeling, and they just say "well we're all put on things we don't like". But people just don't understand how intense I feel anxiety. Most people hate things about their job, but they seem to be able to shrug off their negative feelings and just carry on. When I ask them how they do it, they just say "well I know I need the money so I just have to do it, I don't have a choice." That then makes me feel like I'm weak and that I'm just overreacting and trying to get out of doing the daunting stuff. Maybe that is the case? Maybe people do get as anxious as me but just use the "I have no choice, I need the money" cliche to help them carry on, and I'm just making a fuss. Maybe I'm just a problem. Am I just a problem, or are my anxiety levels just higher than other's and I am feeling useless because people don't realise how anxious I am feeling?

The next person who says NTs don't lack empathy I'm going to punch.

I think that there may be something in ASD folks with not being able to graduate emptions - you go from nothing to everything with no in between. extreme happy or angry - but then again everyone's a bit different - but I've been wondering about this too.

My emotions are very intense.

Yes, this is actually an observed phenomenon. Autistics appear to have only two grades on and off. I've read about it in clinical observations in psychological papers/books. I personally find it to be very true. On and off, all or nothing, 0 or 1.

I cried at the end of watching Toy Story 3 a few weeks ago, and I'm a 31 year old man.

When I was walking through the forest today, I was starting to shed tears because it was so peaceful and serene. So yeah, my emotions tend to get a bit strong.

But I also have dry spells where I feel nothing toward anyone or anything, like a rob0t, almost. I really hate those times.

I don't know, I've never had the chance to experience someone elses emotions to know how mine compare to theirs.

I've had intense emotions my whole life, but I always put it down to being artistic/creative; the "artistic temperament" I guess, though that's a cliche and I don't suppose every creative person is the same and the arts probably have every personality description.

I feel things deeply, if something moves me I cry easily, if something is beautiful I have a lot of joy in it, etc. Even as a little child I was sensitive to everything, good and bad and inbetween, I noticed things and felt things about the things I noticed.

When I hit my teens and became hormonal, not surprisingly things got "worse" and I have never forgotten one night when I was agonizing to my mother about some situation I felt anxious about, my dad, overhearing, said to me "You're too intense. Why are you so intense? You shouldn't be so intense."

I took this as an insult and a judgement on who I was, because I couldn't freaking help it -- it was my personality. I was intense because the world felt intense to me.

That wasn't and isn't always ideal or enjoyable, but in my opinion it's also out of that intensity that I would begin to write a poem, begin a novel, write song lyrics, start composing music in my head and sit down at the piano to express it, or paint a picture. Those things didn't happen out of any time when I felt "eh, meh" -- they happened out of moments when I felt something about something, in a good or a bad way. So when he said that to me it felt like an attack on who I am. I know he didn't mean it that way but that's what it felt like. I've always been an emotional person, which doesn't preclude the ability for logic too, by the way.

I have a strong feeling of fury rather than being angry. That's something that's a bit bothering.
But I have problems with describing my feelings. I just can't delineate them properly.

My emotions are often extremely intense, so when I feel something, I FEEL something.

I find my emotions pretty intense--but I don't express them overtly very often.

I'm either intense or just somewhere in between. I'm never nothing. Well, I suppose ''never'' is an exaggerated word, but you know what I mean.

I think there still is an inbetween. I can still identify my anger as being either a 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5 but the swing across the scale can sometimes be quicker and more intense- kind of like fading a dimmer switch at the same rate on two lights and the brighter lite seems to brighten quicker then the less bright light.

I think there still is an inbetween. I can still identify my anger as being either a 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5 but the swing across the scale can sometimes be quicker and more intense- kind of like fading a dimmer switch at the same rate on two lights and the brighter lite seems to brighten quicker then the less bright light.