Ever have an experience at a night club or bar?

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If so, how was it? Was it nerve wracking or fun?

My friends and I got real drunk and went to this house where they do lap dances and everything, I was a bit nervous until I drank but realized the girls were all high so I didn't worry too much. I just didn't want to look like a fool not knowing what to do or how to order.. I think they had MDMA I heard that's being used in clinical research for ASD. lol

overall, my experience was "Ok" i wish I was smoother.

I don't drink alcohol. And I didn't back when I was 21, either. The legal age, back then, was 18.

I was at this bar. I was 21. This was 33 years ago, in 1982. This blonde, somewhat chubby girl was kissing guys. She was drunk. I was sober. I kissed her, though.

We all piled into someone's car. We went to New Jersey. Me and that blonde girl were making out. She was "in the mood." After an hour, though, she got sober and lost interest.

As a result, I was stranded in New Jersey; fortunately, there was a PATH station nearby, so I took the train back to NYC.

We had phone sex for maybe a month afterwards--but we never saw each other again.

I have, but it was overload central.
they blasted music, the lighting was a combination of blue LED, blacklights and strobes and the air was filled with dry-air smoke and MJ.

I lasted no more than 5 minutes before i ran outside, screaming...

Never got past the dancing stage with a woman and that happened maybe a handful of times.

I was a regular at a laid back local pub for years. It took a long time but people got to know and like me.

I went by myself to nightclubs to see New wave acts back in the 80's. The crowds were tough to deal with but not the noise because it was the music I loved that was blasting. I was not nearly the weirdest person at those places.

I went to a bar last year for my cousin's 21st birthday. It was OK, but because I don't like drinking alcohol much, it got boring. I was confident in how I looked; my hair was all done nicely, I had some make-up on, and I wore party-appropriate clothes. I wanted the boys and men there to look at me, but they didn't. Well, every male there seemed to have a girlfriend anyway. I tried to talk to other female there, but I felt like I was intruding. These two women who I knew anyway were having an open conversation (not exactly private) and I came and stood near to try to join in, but I felt that they didn't want me to. They seemed to be so wrapped up in the conversation that I don't think they noticed me, and I couldn't get a word in edge ways because they both seemed to be talking non-stop and I didn't want to interrupt. I think they both had a few to drink anyway. So I walked away, and sat at the table not quite knowing where to go or who to talk to. Then I stood with one of my other cousins who was talking with his mate. They're quiet like me (not Aspies), but they started talking about people they knew (who weren't at the party) and I didn't know the people they knew, so I kind of stood there awkwardly. And when I stand there awkwardly too long, I keep thinking that people will get annoyed and think I am just being nosy or something. But at a social gathering at a bar like that, I thought people would be more open and want people coming up and joining in group conversations, because that's what you are basically only there to do, is socialize.

I think I have lost my confidence in socializing ever since these people were a bit nasty to me when I used to volunteer at a charity shop. I had a habit of sometimes jumping my way into conversations, but that was only because I didn't want to be quiet and shy all the time, and I didn't interrupt mid-sentence. I just found a gap, and just said something relevant to the conversation, and they didn't like it, even though everybody else did it all the time. Like one time when two volunteers (who I knew anyway) were talking about a television programme that was on the night before, and I had watched the same programme they were talking about, so I really wanted to express myself by saying that I also watched it, so I said, ''I watched that too'', and then one of them turned round to me and yelled, ''I wasn't talking to you!'' I don't care what the excuse is, I find it very rude when people say that like that. I felt very humiliated afterwards, and now I am put off socializing because I'm scared that might happen again. I do find it easier when people are talking to each other but also make eye contact with me, because I know that is a good way of knowing that I am free to join in. I am good with recognising body language, but sometimes I'm so excited to say something, that I don't pay much attention to the non-verbal signs. I definitely learnt to pay more attention ever since the b***h humiliated me at the volunteering job.

Now I feel I take TOO MUCH notice of the non-verbal expressions people do, and have become more sensitive to other people's thoughts and feelings more than the average person does.

I did it last summer with my softball team just to say I did and it was AWFUL! I could not wait to go home (and got violently ill as soon as I did). How people are willing to pay money to line up to listen to loud music and be so crowded you can't move is a mystery I will never understand. No chance to meet any women (at the time) because it was too dark and noisy and the few I saw (it was a get-teammate-laid trip) were snobbish and rude.

I will say that I did not feel unsafe given that area's bad reputation and the security was extremely polite and professional to me.

They don't really have night clubs where I live, they do however have bars. I have had both positive and negative experiences. The best experiences were when I went along with friends and we kind of sat in a dark corner. Worst experiences were when it was a larger group, there are all these social conventions that I have little experience with and do not know. It is loud and so many conversations going on at the same time, it is too much. I end up finding a reason to go home as soon as I feel I have put in enough of an appearance.