Do you identify with an AS relative?

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My cousin has a daughter who is either AS or NLD (they want to wait a little longer before deciding), and I just love her to pieces, especially because I can identify with her so much. She is obsessed with certain things, and I can completely understand having those obsessions. It makes me laugh to watch her bug her mom all through a meal about her chosen obsession (at that particular meal it was pockets). We stood for half an hour trying to explain pockets and containers to my pet hamster, and I got how important it was to her, even though she is four years old. I hear that the other little girls aren't so enamored of her and that her playmates tend to be boys, but they're a lot rowdier than her because she's not a tomboy. Again, been there done that. My fiance and I want a little girl just like her because although he's NT he has many AS characteristics.

As I get older, I also identify more with my father, who definitely has AS. I see a lot of myself in him. Having relatives like them makes me feel like there is someone who probably knows or will know what it's like.

Looking at it now, I think there's a good chance that a lot of relatives on my dad's side may have had it, or at least characteristics. My brother, father, uncle, aunt, grandfather, and great-grandfather all apparently had things that sound like it might be AS related, though all but my uncle is deceased, so I can't talk to them about it.

My mom said she could never get a word in with myself, my brother, and my father all launching into these monologues on whatever. She said she had to just talk louder to ever get to say anything with the three of us. (My poor mom, she's basically the only person on Earth who gets stuck listening to my going on about...whatever it is )

Your cousin's daughter sounds so cute! I hope things go smoothly for her, as much as possible. At least now they now these things EXIST

my real dad probaly had as. although he numbed his social deficits with drugs

I see AS behaviors in a lot of my family members on both sides of family.

i miss my dad, i hope you dont mind me saying this in your thead

Mine did with alcohol! At least they told my mom when he was in a treatment program that he had started drinking to handle social situations.

I'm SOOOOOO glad I knew ever to use drugs or alcohol. I have such a hard time with life as it is, I can't imagine if I added that on top of things.

I think my mum has some characteristics of AS, but not enough to be diagnosed. I think my father might have AS. My brother has ADD and has some characteristics of AS, but I think these might be better attributed to the ADD. There are also several relatives on both my mum's side and my dad's side of the family who might have AS. However, I have not really found anyone who I can relate to, but I am happy enough just being alone. The only problem is trying to explain what it's like for me and how I feel. My family doesn't always understand why I act certain ways and sometimes I get punished for acting a certain way without finding out why I'm acting that way.

AS characteristics run in my family on both of my parents' side.

Guess I should restate the question. What I meant was not just do you have a relative with AS (although that does seem to bring out quite a few responses so please feel free), but does you actually feel a bond with that particular relative because of your shared characteristics and experiences.

My father did that too, the world became too much on him and he started taking drugs. I use to relate to him, but we would also fight all the time. On good days we would talk to each other for hours about sharks, animaniacs and horses. Shark Week was my "father and daughter" time. We fought, because he would go on, and on about the Beatles, Star Trek and ham radios. He also spoke like mojo jojo from the power puff girls, and he would forget the letter g (I.E. Gettin', Fishin'). Although he was never diagnosed I believe he was an aspie, and the entire side of his family agrees too.
My little brother shows aspie traits too, and I'm very close to him. He has an obsession with video games, mainly Mario, and Zelda. Its talk, talk, talk, talk. HA! He called my 'adopted' brother Curt to wish him happy birthday and it turned into a 1 hour rant about wind waker. He likes the ocean too, so he'll lay down next to me and watch documentaries. Every time something comes up that he doesn't know about its "WHOA! SIS! what was that? You're smart, tell me." He is so cute, and he is my best friend in the whole world.

My dad is probably AS as well,
and he too numbs himself, with alcohol.

My cousin (who's much older than me) very definitely has Asperger's.

He's a highly accomplished individual, which I admire; though we've never been too close.

I think I am the odd one out in my family.

I have no AS relatives.

I have a brother who have some AS traits but also has NT traits, he has no problem socializing, he has friends, he is married, but he hates pop stuff like pop/rock music, romantic music and movies, gossip and hates social stuff like parties and similar things, he also hates sports. He is very innocent (naive), he is a teacher, he almost got in trouble for supposed sexual harassment, because he was so naive. He is serious that some might think he is emotionless, but sometimes he laughs and jokes but rarely. He is good making conversations and socializing, so I think he might be a very high functioning aspie. I share all the AS traits but not too much of the NT traits. We also share same interests in music, tv and movies.

I have a cousin who I think she is an aspie because we both are very similar in many ways, thought she socialize a little more bit, she doesn't like to go out, hates parties, had suffered depression, is very shy, gets angry easily, never had a boyfriend and she is 23. Doesn't talk too much.
I don't have too much a relationship with her, its ok I guess but we are not that close.

Last edited by greenblue on 24 Apr 2007, 11:16 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I don't have aspie relatives. Only my dad and cousin have ADHD, but no AS.