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08 Apr 2007, 5:37 pm

1rst sorry i have been started a lot of new threads. im new to WP and have lot of questions and thing i want to know. i never have talked to other ppl with aspergers before.

i have a case manager from my county to help me get services because i need lot of help to "stay good and function" and she is good and helps me get OT, speech and therapy. but now she wants me to be in a group home for development diasbilities people. she said she want me to be in one becuse it will help me learn what do to appropriate in public and learn how to make conversation. and becuse she said ppl there will except me and not have to worry about being different because other ppl autisitc will be there. and i dont know how i feeling about that. because i want to becuase i will be excepted there and other ppl have hand flaps and have special rooms in there with swings and heavy blankets and special things. do u think i should go to group home? becuase she said that i will be able to get in with qualifying.



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08 Apr 2007, 5:41 pm

Faith,

Just out of curiousity, what is your native language?

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08 Apr 2007, 5:42 pm

Where are you living now? By yourself, with roommates, at home with parents or family? You should be able to get all of those services at home, to increase your independence. Unless you are unsafe by yourself and have no family to support you, you should not move into an institution.



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08 Apr 2007, 5:46 pm

i speak with english as my langage. sorry im bad at sentinces and writing. i do better when i take my time with no rushing. when i do it fastly i cant spell and do sentinces good.



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08 Apr 2007, 5:50 pm

im living with my mom and dad now. but they say its hard really to live with me because i have trouble alone. and have trouble helping with me. because at night i have trouble with sleep and because they are work all day and being angry a lot they cannt handle me. i need more help they say and case manager say that to with learned skills



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08 Apr 2007, 6:02 pm

faith wrote:
i speak with english as my langage. sorry im bad at sentinces and writing. i do better when i take my time with no rushing. when i do it fastly i cant spell and do sentinces good.


It's just that the word order and verb tenses peg you as foreign. Other stuff most make allowances for. My spelling, etc... isn't that great, for example, but tense and order are usually perfect or near so.

In retrospect though, there WERE perhaps 6 out of tens of thousands of posts that I made that were like yours. I was tired and nervous at the time, and they were short, and perhaps 6 spoken paragraphs in over 40 years when I was nervous and in a hurry. My general grammer HAS degraded a bit after learning several languages. So I guess I don't know WHAT to think about your posts. 8-(

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09 Apr 2007, 9:44 pm

I am sorry Faith for your dilemma. My son 13 is in a group home. I don't want him there but it is court ordered due to a threat with a knife on the playground. I do not like this particular group home because they do not engage the children enough, they don't go outside and have activities planned for each day. I don't see how my son is in any way making progress. He is more self sufficient in making his own bed, meals and cleaning. There are 3 other children, various ages, various spectrum disorders and other problems with these children. My son has been yanked out of his bed in the middle of the night by one of the bigger guys, they do not have locks for their doors. The lower functioning children are noisy and it is a poor learning environment. He does not have internet to communicate or able to build on his dreams of making aneme and film. It would have to be something that I would be sure to investigate with my family before it is too late. The kids bother my son so much that it has made him very angry and isolated.



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10 Apr 2007, 12:08 pm

well i'd give it a try, i know group homes arent cool and all but it bets living on the streets


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10 Apr 2007, 1:27 pm

I think it would be better, Faith, if your parents could make some changes in their lives that would make living at home more practical. How old are you?

I don't understand all this parental yelling I read about here! I think a lot of the parents could use some classes in parenting...


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10 Apr 2007, 8:21 pm

Hi Faith,
I provide services to individuals so they can live independently in the community. Perhaps you could get someone to live with you instead of moving into a group home. It has been my experience that generally folks do better when they live independently or with just one other person. Not sure of your age...good luck.


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10 Apr 2007, 9:31 pm

A group home is the last resort.I live in MN and worked at a group home and it is not something I would recommend unless the choice is this or homelessness.If you trust your parents,make then check out the specific group home,some are better then others,some are very,very bad.The people working there are lazy and indifferent and most dont speak english very well and are hard to understand.You are beter off getting into an independent living situation with someone to come in and stay with you but that is more expensive and the government wont pay for it unless your parents fight for it.

Dont go to any where with out someon you trust(family more then social workers who just want to get you in any where and make a lot of empty promises to get you out of their hair) checking it out.Is it clean,are the others living there violent,loud?

Best of luck.What company owns the house you are thinking about moving to?Some are better then others.


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11 Apr 2007, 8:08 pm

they wanting me going to group home ebcuase i dont knowing how living a lone need lot of helping with going sleep and help. groupp home is peple haveng autsim and down sindrome and other. im 19 bbut they say i doont havign high ablity.



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11 Apr 2007, 8:25 pm

faith wrote:
they wanting me going to group home ebcuase i dont knowing how living a lone need lot of helping with going sleep and help. groupp home is peple haveng autsim and down sindrome and other. im 19 bbut they say i doont havign high ablity.


I hate to say it, but a lot of people would have trouble hiring you just because of the writing and word order. I have dealt with LOTS of foreigners, etc.... and have seen REALLY bad writing, messed up word order and choice, and have still been able to translate. My boss even thanks me for translating another persons neglhis to english!(neglhis is a spelling of english to give you an idea of what I have to do) So I don't even know how hard a time others have understanding you.

SO, I hate to say it but they may be right. :cry:
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11 Apr 2007, 8:29 pm

but ii not tring to working there. they people wanting me live there to getting help. never mind. you doont understamd.



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11 Apr 2007, 8:43 pm

faith wrote:
but ii not tring to working there. they people wanting me live there to getting help. never mind. you doont understamd.


NO, I understand! They want you to live there for HELP, like with people hiring you. When they say you aren't high functioning, that is one of the things they mean.

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11 Apr 2007, 8:46 pm

but they saay not high fuctinging beecasue needing help w ith dailey things and nott knwo right with wrong they saying