Does anyone ever wish they could be normal?

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I wish I could have it all: money, a boyfriend, a beautiful body, self-esteem.

Define "Normal".

No mental issues, husband, kids, a job, the whole nine yards............

A lot of the time I do want to be normal. I want to be able to fit in and laugh and joke with my classmates, and to have friends who know everything about me. I'm mostly content with being myself, though. Try to let go of the need to compare yourself to others, and focus on improving yourself and developing your talents.

No, because if I was normal, I wouldn't be me. Being Autistic defines me.

Sometimes. But then again I would lose everything that I am if was to be normal. :/

Then I am not normal ... I have a wife ...

I would love to experience being "normal'. But, I would want to be able to return to being me if I thought that was better. One never knows how life would be if such deep changes were made. It could turn out way worse, one never knows...

all the time i desperately want to be normal (neurotypical). i hate the way my brain functions and i wish i didnt have to be this way. i try to hide it the best that i can

In a word: NO. A big no for that. Being "normal" means having no real interests other than beer and such and no deep emotions other than cliche interactions and "scripted" conversation. And no super powers. One of the regrets of the dying is supposedly not having the courage to live the life we truly want and are meant to live and living a lie instead. Why make a lie out of a life? Keep the f. Why kill a part of you only to impress or conform with the people you do not even like and who do not even really care about what you do, just automatically reacting with their pre-programmed chatter to the stimuli you create with you presence?

By this definition, I am normal as well (I have a wife, kids and a job). By no means do I feel like I "have it all".

I've been thinking about this too - maybe it's because of new year?
I wish I could be normal in some ways. I'm restless to get out there and function with the rest of the world. If I could have had the choice whether to be born neurotypical or autistic I would have chosen neurotypical, yes, but that's not the way things are, and as they are, I'm getting better with not minding being autistic. Being autistic has its pros as well as its cons.
Though I don't want a wife and kids and a white picket fence, or a normal 9 - 5 for that matter, "normal" could just be your idea of a good, fulfilling life.

No, not I.
These so called normal people are selfish, self centered, lying cheating stealing people with no drive, no persistence, no temperament to pursue a dream over months, years and decades to achieve something special.

Normal = Booze, football and sex.

How many times have you heard an NT say "I wish I could do something like that"? Well they could, but getting off their backsides and actually doing it is a bridge too far. No aspiration, no inspiration. No matter how many times I've encouraged people to give it a try, do it, they just will not take the first step. So frustrating...

And you want to be like that? No way man, no way.

I'll take my quiet autistic life full of wonder and projects any day, every day of the week over what NT's suffer through.

Sometimes when I think about the fact that I have never even come close to being married I do wonder whether I would have been married with everything that comes with it if I didn't have Aspergers.

But then I'll never know.

Maybe it's just because I haven't met the right person yet.

But does being married mean that everything else would just slip into place?

I can't see how it would make me any more "normal" that what I already am though.

Why do so many Aspies think that all NTs are just these socially-driven monsters who want to do nothing with their lives except socialize every minute they're awake? It's so frustrating it makes me want to punch my computer screen every time someone says that on this forum.

Being NT does not mean lying, cheating and stealing. Most decent NTs would never steal or cheat and lots say how wrong it is. As for lying, most NTs just use white lies, which I don't know why Aspies think that is so bad. It is not bad. Some lies are bad, others are acceptable. And NTs are not just put on this planet to socialize, socialize, socialize, talk nonstop and not pursue anything in their lives. Why do so many NTs go to college and university? No, not just because of peer pressure or to just land a good job to be greedy with money. Most do these things because they are INTERESTED in doing it and want to land a good job and have good qualifications so they can live up to their ambitions and dreams.


So Aspies hate stereotypes being made to describe us, yet most Aspies tend to think that being NT means all you do is drink alcohol, have sex and talk about football. That's a stereotype to NTs. They are much more interesting than that.



I thought that was more like me. I know so many NTs, and there's only very few who don't get off their backsides to do things, and funnily enough they're the ones who seem to lack friends, don't leave home and can't find a girl/boyfriend, or if they do the relationship doesn't last long or they end up having a baby then splitting up and just live on benefits.

I think the majority of my depressive symptoms and past hatred for the world came from the fact that I was not "normal" and sure wished I was, to the point that I dumbed myself down to fit it and drank & drugged to get "friends".

I'm glad I survived all that, including a strong suicide attempt. Now I realize I can never be normal (it's too late, anyway) and I embrace and fully accept my non-normalness. I don't want for much now, including normalcy, and the world can tell me I'm wrong about that, but then the world can push off.

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