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Lots of people like to use a particular joke with me. Like when I dropped something of mine at a shop, an employee joked saying that I would need to pay for any damage I made. I recognized it as a joke and laughed.

Another time, though, I didn't. Somebody was playing a song without their headphones as a respite I was at, which was really bothering me. I asked the person to wear their headphones. The person joked, "Maybe I should just make it louder," but I did not recognize it as a joke at the time. I accused the person of trying to punish me for bringing up the noise they were making.

Yeah. It depends.

What you're describing aren't really "jokes" though.


/e: Hmm, maybe they are... cause said in jest. Bleh.

When I was younger, I had trouble understanding jokes. But now I can get them most of the time. Often, though, I know something is a joke, but I don't find it funny or it upsets me. This often happens with jokes that are directed to a group of people, such as those starting with "You guys..."

im a spectrum mix they say and it would make sense cause i pick up jokes better than most aspies but i still dont catch on to everything. it seems to me that people with pdd and high functioning catch on to jokes alot better. ill get offended at jokes because to me jokes are jokes but something in them is real. and if i cut somebody down trying to make a joke like people do in the heart it doesnt feel right.

Jokes and "banter" like this really frustrate me. Often I can't tell whether or not a person is joking, but even if I do know they're making I joke I rarely know how to respond. It's annoying, because people who know me well know I have a great sense of humour, but the people who joke with me in this way assume I'm boring or unfriendly.

We have porters at my university, who often joke around like this with the students, and I feel like I'm missing out on some kind of bond with them because of it. I don't know if anyone here has played the Sims, but I conceptualise relationships in terms of the green relationship bars in the game - I can see people around me having positive interactions when joking like this (as well as in other ways, of course) and the little pluses are appearing over their heads, but the majority of my interactions, even when I try to emulate other people, result in no response or even negative results because I don't respond appropriately to people's jokes and it comes across as me being aloof or not liking them.

All that aside though, I don't think it's at all unusual to get jokes some times and not at others. It's like wordplay games that rely on your understanding multiple meanings or senses of a word: sometimes the intended meaning of the word is very obvious, and sometimes you can't see it until it's pointed out to you. I think understanding jokes is very similar in principle.