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BaneBear
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08 Jan 2016, 4:31 pm

Here is the problem for me, I work in a place with all women. I have come to love this job and the people in it like family. My aspergers is now beginning to affect me in this regard. I have intense anxiety with them, I always feel as if people around here do not like me or find me annoying/negative. What is worse is I cannot talk anyone about how I feel because it is a burden to talk to people about my baggage. One girl in particular I have feelings for and she has a relatively new boyfriend whom she loves dearly. I feel unbelievably jealous with not just her but in general around here. Other people are closer with each other than with me. No one really seeks me out to talk to me, or wants to include me in stuff anymore. I feel left out and hated around here, ontop of this I listen to all day all these other guys who are such gentlemen or are so attractive and I am reminded of qualities I do not possess(people will tell me that I only think I don't, but I disagree entirely). It has gotten to the point of some self harm(scratching and biting my arm), and a completely disgraceful self image. My fear is this job and the people will end up like my other groups of friends, who will become sick of how much of a drag and annoying child I am. I will be rejected by that girl, and fired from the job. I am afraid of these things happening and I do not know how to make myself likable and wanted around here.



BaneBear
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08 Jan 2016, 4:36 pm

I hate burdening people with myself, my problems, and my nonsense. Like tonight it is just me and 2 other girls, and I fear I will be a burden because of my already sullen mood.



fifasy
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09 Jan 2016, 6:17 pm

I've been in exactly the same situation. How about turning things on their head by bringing in a food gift for everyone the next day?

Maybe it could change the mood a bit. If it works you could start baking things and bringing them in often. I don't know, just an idea.

I'm no expert though so please take my advice with a pinch of salt. I could well be talking the biggest nonsense you ever heard.