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04 Feb 2019, 5:49 pm

Every time I get overwhelmed, angry, or have meltdowns, my first response is always to start banging my head, with my hands, on the wall, on the floor, whatever hard surface I have available. It's instinctive, and it starts before I can do anything about it. Once I start, I can't stop without redirection or physical intervention from someone else. I've been to the ER and had the paramedics called many times because of it. I do it because it's a way of taking the internal pressure that I don't know how to deal with and making it external, like letting air out of a balloon that's blown up too much. The jolting impact also tends to be rhythmic and jarring, which is soothing.

Do you or did you ever engage in this behaviour? I'd really like to stop, and my therapist is going to try to teach me some new strategies next week, but I've tried a lot of different things (deep breathing, yoga, sensory breaks, heavy exercise) and none of it has really worked because nothing feels the same as head banging.


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04 Feb 2019, 5:50 pm

I've banged my head pretty hard on hard surfaces.



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04 Feb 2019, 6:00 pm

I used to hit my head with my hands during outbursts before I went on antidepressants, but that was because I was angry at myself and wanted to let everyone know how much I hated myself. I never done it as a child or teenager though.


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04 Feb 2019, 6:27 pm

I've never told anyone that, but yes...I used to. Not really hard, but like bouncing a ball. Sort of bump, bump, bump. I also like to press my forehead against cold glass windows...very firmly.



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04 Feb 2019, 9:20 pm

Not as such, no.

Though I have been known to bang my head on the desk if something says something intensely stupid. That happens more than it should.


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04 Feb 2019, 10:41 pm

No I do not.


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05 Feb 2019, 12:33 am

Only when listening to Slayer.


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05 Feb 2019, 3:04 am

DanielW wrote:
I've never told anyone that, but yes...I used to. Not really hard, but like bouncing a ball. Sort of bump, bump, bump. I also like to press my forehead against cold glass windows...very firmly.


I like pressing my head against panes of glass too, I like the smoothness of it. I also like puffing up my cheeks and pressing my whole face against the glass. I have to remind myself that just as I can see out, other people can also see in!


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05 Feb 2019, 5:08 am

No, I bite my fingers instead.
My mother says I did when I was a toddler. I don't remember it.


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05 Feb 2019, 6:31 am

magz wrote:
No, I bite my fingers instead.
My mother says I did when I was a toddler. I don't remember it.


I'm also a chewer...I bite through pens, pencils, etc. I have a chewy necklace that looks like military "dog tags" that I really go to town on sometimes.



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05 Feb 2019, 6:51 am

I slap my own face if I'm overwhelmed by an emotion such as embarrassment or regret.



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05 Feb 2019, 7:31 am

I do. Just not very often and had to be seriously frustrated enough for me do actually do it.


Happens out of frustration of self than anything else.

And it's usually when I cannot sleep when I should be willingly asleep.
Past midnight, very exhausted, overwhelmed because of having to deal with rhinitis related crap like sneezing for every half a minute, causing headaches and discomfortable breathing along with it, while urgently have to get up early...


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05 Feb 2019, 8:29 am

When I was a baby/toddler, I used to do bang my head more often than my parents would like to see me to. From all accounts I was used to smash it very hard "for no reason" (their words).

These days I don't do it. Not that I don't think of doing, but I don't.



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06 Feb 2019, 1:56 am

magz wrote:
No, I bite my fingers instead.
My mother says I did when I was a toddler. I don't remember it.


I bite my fingers too. The insides of both my index fingers have calluses from where I've bitten them repeatedly. For me it's a way of managing both frustration and excitement.


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06 Feb 2019, 3:27 am

Sadly yes...
I did it in my room when I was a kid to calm down and during meltdowns and still do :cry: I recently broke a headband because I hit my head against the car window. Meldowns are absolutly awful and embarresing :oops: