Is PMS an excuse for aspie girl to be out of control

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Yesterday morning when I went with my brother to a St Partick's day parade in downtown Vancouver I had PMS and I waiting for the bus and I was crying because my brother yelled at me. I made an angry phone call to my cousin and my brother got really angry. I also sent a rude text to my landlady. I cried alot and I called 911 and hung up. I was also on the bus crying and on the phone and another passenger told me to keep to myself. I yelled the f word at him and the bus driver exploded at me and told me I can't swear on the bus and he got really steamed when I told my friend on the phone that I think the driver is stupid. I also fingered him when I got off the bus.

I hope by ''fingered'' you mean ''stuck your fingers up''....

You honestly have to find a way to cool down, whether you have PMS or not.

PMS/PMT is no excuse for bad behavior. It may be the underlying cause, but it is certainly not an excuse.

crying and being irritable is part of PMS. the way we react to those feelings says a lot about our maturity. just because a person doesn't feel good, doesn't give them license to be rude and unruly.

Hormones can bring you right to the edge and then keep you there for a day, without any outside triggers. Then all it takes is the smallest thing and...meltdown.

To people who say, "PMS is no excuse for bad behavior" (not specifically you, Fnord! ) : Imagine whatever your meltdown triggering overstim is, like a repetitive sound that won't stop, a sharp underwear seam, whatever. Now imagine feeling it throughout your entire body...for hours...nonstop at it's maximum intensity. PMS can really throw out of balance everything from serotonin to oxytocin & all the other hormones & neurotransmitters that help people keep their behavior socially acceptable.

To the OP: Due to an ignorant endocrinologist, I understand how badly hormone shifts can mess you up (and that's only half of PMS). But, it's a bad situation all around because the people around you IRL aren't likely to give you a pass. If you know you risk going into a meltdown, stay away from situations where it will have lasting repercussions. Put your phone away. Stay home. For that day or three, let people close to you know that you aren't feeling well and then hunker down and avoid as much human contact as you can, for you own sake.

I would say there was some provocation perpetuated by some other people. They probably should have been more sensitive, and allowed her leeway.

But she could get in real trouble--especially when it comes to calling 911.

I wasn't with her--so I don't know--but there are times when people get emotional about things, but they have to restrain themselves in public. Otherwise, there might be trouble. It's the reality of the streets, of strangers, of people ignorant of PMS.

I had girlfriends with PMS. I wouldn't get upset with them. I would try to listen. Many times, that helped the situation.

PMS is completely hormonal and out of the control of a girl

however it still is not an excuse, its never easy but being in control of your emotions is the first step.

so in a way- PMS can be the one to blame for being more emotional however it is not the blame for being out of control.

Its like cravings- when you are PMSing you WANT a big giant chocolate cake and it hurts not to have it but you have the power to say 'yes' or 'no', its just easier and more gratifying to say 'yes'

I too have a hard time controlling myself when my hormones are out of wack but im getting better and recognizing when they are and what i should do.

It takes time and effort.

im sorry that happened to you.