will i never have friends or have a girlfriend.

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i never really had any friends.

and i want a girlfriend some day to.

im afraid none of these things will happen.



for all aspies how did u make friends?

do you have friends?

are any of you married or have a girlfriend.boyfriend?

Hmm I don't think you'll never have friends or a partner because you want that and if you want something you'll nearly always get it.

There is a possibility of not having friends or a partner but it's lowere than if you didn't care about such things.

Do I make sense? Lol

I have friends, but they are very low maintenance, they don't require for me to ask about them all the time, I don't need to attend events, etc.

I have had friends come and go over the years and it's just life really, I mean if a friendship is causing you pain / anxiety it probably isn't worth it and to be honest, i'd rather no friends than needy friends (which most are, in my experience), but I have only found a couple of people over the years that have not only proven they wish to be my friend, but they do not require constant attention and they have also stood up for me.

I am also engaged to be married, so yes that is also possible, but again its about finding the right people, and it can be hard, it often feels like it will never happen, the thing I had to remember was, If someone didn't show interest in me, or we didn't "fit" or they "played" me, it wasn't really my loss. It was one step closer to finding someone I could share my life with.

It took me a good while to realize I was worthy of love and the universe hadn't set a rule enforcing my unhappiness. Once I could see that I was in charge of my own happiness and that, in order to find "the one" I would also find those who were not, it helped me gain perspective. It helped my confidence. I also worked on myself to make myself a better "catch", and I don't mean change myself, more... push myself to be who I wanted to be. How could I expect someone to love me if I didn't like myself?

If you want these things, you can find them, but you have to do something about it, you can't just sit there and wish they would happen (I was guilty of this).

Due to the negativity on this forum I feel I must also say, I don't think I'm attractive (I'd say 3 out of 10), I don't have a lot of spare money (barley scrape by), I have no education above high school (self taught), I am not an alpha male.

Its up to you, how much you want it and what your willing to try to get friends.

Yes i had friends; half of them on the spectrum, the other half humble gamers, anime and manga fans, you know; nerds.

i dont have any friends that are i would say 'normal'.

and at the moment i sorta have a "boyfriend", also a nerd, although we are not exclusive, he wants to have sex and i dont so i told him he can have sex with whomever he wants. He recently started roleplaying with me and we are getting closer.

My Advice: look for people on the same social level as you or people who are very open minded and accepting. its hard but i find it much easier than talking to 'normal' people.

I have only found that it is next to impossible to find people like myself anywhere near me, geographically.

I have one friend who's my former supervisor but I only see him 1ce a year sense I moved across the country to be with my girlfriend.

I met all 3 of my girlfriends on forums. I met my 2nd & current on this forum by posting aLOT.