Today is kind of strange...

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but in a good way! For the first time in quite a while, I feel ok with having Asperger's. It is ok to be different. I have a reason to be different, and that is ok. My life today looks like an NT's. I have a job, marriage, kid, and house. I may have been delayed relative to my peers, but that is ok!

Hope I keep this feeling!

There's no reason NOT to keep this feeling.

You've accomplished lots in life.

Good for you,

Meanwhile, I am unemployed, no girl, no friends, doing drugs and in isolation with no success in sight... and oddly enough I like that so maybe we are what we want to be. The social family working life isn't for everyone.

I do sense that you want a way out of this, DCJ.

I know I irritate you sometimes when I become like a drug counselor or something.

But you got so much talent in certain things. I feel bad that you're blowing it when you drink too much and smoke too much pot.

1. I don't drink or do anything drugs outside of weed, I gave up my addictions and rewarded myself with only pot.

2. I will admit that I don't like fitting into a stereotype of smoking weed and doing nothing but there are very successful marijuana users and God willing I'll be one in college soon.

3. I feel fine on weed, if I didn't, I wouldn't do it since I am done with addictions.

4. This is offtopic, I brought that up as a comparison and stereotypes of different levels of success.

Got you, Sir.

Pot costs bucks, though. That's the b***h about pot.

I think Professor John got the right attitude now.

It's better having made love with ten girls

Than screwing 30.

Lets move this conversation to my post in School and College Life to avoid hijacking this dudes thread. Will post a reply there in a second. I don't disagree though, I am just frustrated with addiction in general so my solution is to take the lesser of all the evils and it really does help anxiety. The only reason I hate it, is its illegal status.

Anyway don't reply, posting in other thread in a second,

Amongst other things, I realized that I have spent most of my life angry and depressed that I can't be like others. I guess it is time to give up those emotions and quit trying to be like others. At least I know why I am different. For much of my life I didn't know why, so I kept trying.

In many areas, I do end up like others, it just takes me 7-8 years longer. I guess I am just "slow".

I suppose I should be happy with ASD, because I'm in a job, have a boyfriend, have a few friends, can interact with people, and I will be getting married soon.

But despite all that, I'm still awkward, stupid, too emotional, hyper, anxious, inattentive, forgetful and have social anxiety.

Today And Life is Strange.
I used to call it Nearly Normal.
Though normal is just a setting on my washing machine.
(Brief interlude as my brain goes to our laundry room - an imitation of A cat in a clothes drier. Quiet meow & purr
Sound door shutting loud meow followed by banging noise on dryer louder meow another thud noise. Note to other comics. Quit the bit before the audience quits laughing
Happiness is not just warm puppies and kitties or stuff including wonderful wife.

Pot is not a problem. It's a solution I choose not to use.
I still have your type of moments and I'm 2X your age. (Estimate)

Now that I've gone on too long.
If it doesn't kill me it becomes comedy material. ( With mostly wife approved routine. My wife Hates the Cat Bit)

I'd like to have a life like yours.

Meanwhile I'm a high school dropout, functionally illiterate and no friends. etc.
You should be happy with what you get honestly.

WHAT??? You're engaged? this is super!!

And for all the "faults" you listed, I still think you're a pretty great person.

I'm glad you have reached this level of acceptance. It does feel good, doesn't it?

It is wonderful when I find even short moments of acceptance - it's a very new experience to me too, beginning with my diagnosis only weeks ago.

I'm out of work, never had romantic relationship, and have had many other difficulties which I am only just beginning to face, just like many other people here. But the moments of acceptance are not about the "things" that I have, or a list of achievements. They're about feeling comfortable in my own skin at last. I'm no longer the severest critic of my own behaviour (I was often far harsher to myself than the mean old world out there). And I am learning at long last to be kind to myself, even if my circumstances might still be very trying at times.

Dispite being ackward, too emotional, anxious, inattentive,forgetful, and having social anxiety, you can interact with people, have some friends, and will be getting married soon.

Congratulations. May you two have a happy life together.