Drawn to aspies

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Firstly, unless I really push for it, I will doubtfully ever be considered to be tested for an ASD diagnosis; the most I will likely ever have are traits that are more popularly explained by other mental conditions. So I'm basically not on the spectrum.

But I gravitate towards people on the spectrum. Not people very far to the end of the spectrum; ability to communicate is mandatory for me to have a relationship with someone. And I will say that most of these people have not been diagnosed, or at least have not told me of their diagnosis, but when I learned about the spectrum more fully, it became so clear to me that such and such a person from my past or present, was on the spectrum.

2 of my 3 partners so far in life were undeniably spectrumites, the other one had serious social anxiety and poor social skills so could have been. Multiple people I befriended in the past were on the spectrum, at least 3 of my highschool friends were. My most recent acquaintances/friends I've made that I spend any time with are diagnosed or obviously on the spectrum; like there's this group of like, 4 or 5 people that was around last summer where all but 1 of the people in it, were showing traits.

My dad is likely on the spectrum.

Do you find yourselves drawn to other people with ASDs? If I am NT, why would I not feel very comfortable around other NTs so often? This is not just an ability thing either, where because I have issues I place myself among others who have issues; this has been a pattern throughout my life from being a kid and teenager where I had a lot of success right through to where I am now, struggling with everyday tasks.

Autism is largely genetic, and even though I am the only member of my immediate family to be diagnosed with ASD my mom and brother have a few autistic tendencies, especially my brother who has some sensory issues, is antisocial, and is obsessive although he lacks a lot of traits. You might be in the same situation as them, especially considering that your dad is likely on the spectrum.

I am most definitely drawn to neurodiverse people because I find them easier to understand and connect with. My closest friends all seem to have some screws loose, and autism is definitely a posibility for most of them. I also did have one friend who was actually diagnosed with ASD and that friendship was quite interesting.