Questions by a new-found Aspie

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I've read a lot about Asperger's in the past few days, and i'm convinced i'm an aspie but some of the traits do not apply to me, like i don't think i have a specialised area (i don't think "videogames" is specific enough, it is?), so i was wondering, what are the traits you find in every aspie?


(sorry if my english is broken, at least it isn't google trad)

All Aspies should have social problems and repetitive behaviours (like special interests or routines). But those can manifest in many different ways. There's no specific trait that is found in every Aspie.

It is a repetitive behaviour in a short period of time, once an hour, or a larger, like once a day, a week, etc.?

And are the online tests like aspie quiz reliable?

It's not equal to a professional opinion, but it's very useful as a tool to get an idea.

Most people on the spectrum- if not all. should have
Social and Communication Impairment,
Obsessions, Repetitive behaviour, routines or rituals
Sensory dIfferences
Executive Functioning disorder

All traits vary in different people but i beleive no symptom can be absent or it doesn't warrant a diagnoses (i could be wrong though, and im sure Psychologists know what they are doing most of the time when they do diagnose someone with at least a few symptoms)

Like a autistic person may speak fluently and know their manners very well but still cannot make eye contact or can mis nonverbal and verbal social cues.

or a autistic person does not have a big obsession but instead has a STRICT routine.

It can be any type of repetitive behaviour, like stimming (repetitive body movements), routines that you need to follow, or a special interest that you're really obsessed with.

Ok so it is a complex mix of symptoms of various intensities, i did get that. I have the repetitive behaviour, a strong interest and a keen sense of smell.

But i noticed something, the non-verbal language poses no problem to me, but i'm still very naïve.
Could I have theorised unconsciously this non-verbal language by taking acting classes since i was a child?
Even so i do have the urge to walk from right to left and conversely while i'm speaking in front of people. (not on stage)

There is a saying in the autism community: if you've met one autistic (or Asperger's) person, then you've met one autistic person. I do not get into video games. They bore me. But I like board games and especially I love chess. Each aspie/autie is different. So I wouldn't worry about it.

Are you sure about that? Because that's one of the hardest traits to judge introspectively. I know I used to think my nonverbal reading was normal, but then I started checking my perception with more socially skilled family and realized I have subtle nonverbal social difficulties. Things like not knowing who is romantically involved versus flirting versus just being friendly - I can tell they are acting positively towards each other, but I tend to read it as friendship rather than sexual.

Thing i noticed though, i don't make a formal difference between friendship and love when i'm involved in it, it's just a nuance in intensity.

Now you talk about subtle signals, when i get them i usually hesitate before reacting to it, and it's often a guess.