Never went through teenage "rebellious" phase

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Did anyone else here not go through the "rebellious teenage phase"? I never did. When my sister was acting out one particular time I told my mom I didn't understand why people go through that phase and she responded saying I was an unusual teenager. This was a few years ago but I was thinking about it recently as my sister and her friends are being especially "rebellious" lately.

Sometimes I'd wish I was but I've always followed the rules. (With very few exceptions)

You're not the only one. I rebelled a bit after I had left home to go to University at 18 - but even that was more a case of not being able to cope with the change in lifestyle and having trouble finding my feet in the world.

I was never interested in defying my parents by sneaking out to drink alcohol with the "cool kids" or anything like that as a teen though, and I never felt that my parents were condescending to me or stood in the way of anything that was important to me. Quite the opposite, I had a great relationship with my Mum in particular, and really enjoyed being able to have grown up conversation with her, and that we were able help each other with our anxieties.

The worst thing I did was to run away from home for a couple of days when I was about 15 or so. But that wasn't teen rebellion or intended to hurt my folks. I recognise it now as a need to find some space because my autistic traits had been stretched too far by the pressure of school exams. I went out of my way to make up for the pain it caused my parents after I had got my feet back on the ground.

Not really, maybe once or twice I backtalked just to see what it was like to not be good.

It didn't feel very good so I stopped

Yeah, same with me. I never really had any reason to defy my parents, so I didn't. I have a NT (and incredibly social) brother only a year younger then me and he is only just getting over that phase.

I yelled and screamed at my parents when frustrated and I have called my mom names when I know I shouldn't and use cuss words when I know I shouldn't (I was mad) and then trying to have ODD as a way to deal with my issues so maybe I did go through it but in my own way. I also watched South Park when it was against her rules. But that was about it. But with my brothers it was totally different and they did things I would never dare to do. Compared to them I was goody two shoes because I went to school, did my school work, didn't skip, I didn't do drugs or go out and do stupid things other teenagers did. Only time I skipped was when I didn't have any school work and I didn't want to sit in class and do nothing and when it was the end of the school year, there was hardly any school work so I started to skip than sitting in class sleeping or playing video games when I could be in the city library reading which was more interesting. Then I went through a phase about being flexible when I was told about how I didn't have to follow all the rules and I over did it.

I've never been through a rebellious phase either. I have a lot of respect for rules and the law and never break them. I think it's an idiotic NT thing to do. I've never drank alcohol, never skipped class, never done illegal drugs...nothing even close to that stuff. I mean, why should I?

I never went through a rebellious phase either; I never felt the need to. All the "cool" teenage things like parties, drugs, aclohol, reckless driving, sneaking out at night, etc. never struck me as fun or appealing, and indeed mostly just scared me (if I'm honest, they still do). My little sister has had flashes of rebellion here and there, like wearing makeup to school in junior high when she wasn't supposed to, and showing up late to her classes sometimes, but that was as far as it went. She's had boyfriends and done the "popular high school social scene" and bought new dresses for every dance she attended like a classic adolescent, but she's never been much of a rule breaker.

My step sister on the other hand, is a year younger than me, and she was definitely a rebel. She lost her verginity at 14, got caught sneaking out of the house through her second storey bedroom window at 1 AM, and I found her smoking behind the bushes at the bus stop before school one morning. She is incredibly bright, but she railed against the oppressive authority her father brought down upon the house that the rest of us just submitted to.

I may have seemed difficult when I did not understand a rule, and could not convince my parents, teachers, etc. to explain it to me, and then would get upset. But, I was not trying to be difficult or deliberately disobey, I was just confused and hated feeling like that.

I never did any of the cliche rebellious teenager acts though. I never understood them either.

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I didn't really go through a rebellious stage either. I've never done drugs or partied and I almost never drank until I was the legal age. I was more moody than I am now though.

I'm glad to see I'm not alone. It seems like a funny thing to be feeling kind of down about, but all I've been hearing about lately is teenagers doing this whole "rebellion" thing. I was starting to feel like I was the only one who hadn't.

The closest I got was reading during class, staying up too late reading, and liking some things when my dad didn't approve. But he never told me not to, he just wasn't very fond of them. Them mainly being a closet full of black clothes, Hellboy (he thinks Hellboy is evil), and vampires (the none sparkling sort). I am of the gothic variety He's still not too fond of the goth-ness but after around 8 years he's figured out that it isn't a phase and it hasn't changed me, so he's mostly let it go.

Actually I think he was originally afraid that being into goth would cause me to rebel or that I was trying to rebel by getting into goth. But I still dress modestly, I don't drink, smoke, cuss, I never skipped classes, I got good grades, and respected my parent's rules. I just feel more at home wearing black and being surrounded by bats, and Bauhaus Luckily he still doesn't know the extent of my love of Metal

Apparently not all teens rebel.

http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2014/02 ... ers-rebel/

My 16 year old who was diagnosed with Aspergers has not rebelled so far. And only ever had 1 tantrum in his life that I can recall.
He is slightly moody on occassion, but nothing more than becoming a little stompy if he is disturbed from doing something he is focussed on.
My 22 year old who had classic autism and complex learning disability ( Pretty much non verbal ) was great up to the start of puberty. He barely had tantrums. After 16 they become awful, I know this is not rebelling as such, but have to assume if he had been verbal and more able he would of become rebellious.
I assume hormones have a part to play in this along with wanting to become independent and testing bounderies.
My 22 year old stopped wanting to take hands ( crossing roads ect )and showed signs of wanting to be more independent than previously.
Puberty / Teenage is a difficult time, on one hand your body hormones are going into overdrive and changing. Your being told by society your no longer a child and should grow up to become an adult. Then at the same time your often treated like a child.
It can be so difficult
I was a nightmare Teen who went off the rails completely, but because I was raised fairly and consistently I came back and managed to eventually get back on track.

It's hard to say, because I acted rebellious as a child too.

I never rebelled either. I still like playing games and hanging out with my parents. I do get annoyed with a lot of things my parents do, and I often call them on it, but never let it get too far. I don't drink alcohol or sneak out or anything like that. Too afraid of getting in trouble, plus I'm not really involved with the social scene so I don't have the opportunity to do those things.

Never got through it either.
If something "cool" doesn't have any reasonable consequences, if I happen to like it, and is forbidden by my parents I'll "rebel".
Yet, if stuffs are forbidden because of consequences, NOT because my parents or the authorty said so, I wouldn't take the risk.


The worst thing I've done so far is skipping all classes for months, have all my allowances spent in the internet cafe, all that without my parents' knowledge. I did that because I was an anxious wreck, and I hate my classmates, not because it was "cool", nor someone pressured me into, nor 'acting out' against my parents.

And the feeling of "missing out"? It never came. I know what I want and when I want it. There's no envy either.

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Me neither.