Why does wearing dresses make me feel more NT?

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I notice that when I look more feminine I feel way more NT. That includes wearing skirts, dresses and makeup I like. I was even like this as a kid. Whenever I see pictures of me wearing dresses I notice my facial expressions look more NT. When I wore pants I had more autistic facial expressions. I even went through a phase as a kid where I only wore dresses and skirts. I went though that phase because I didn't feel like a real girl without my dresses and skirts. I guess I subconsciously knew dresses and skirts made me more NT.

Because you're a feminine woman and a real lady.

I'm not sure I follow this logic.
So, you have a traditionally binary idea of femininity, and when you conform to the norm that everyone expects of you... you feel like you are following a norm, and thus, fit the mold (which is an NT mold) better...
Okay?
I don't know... seems... a mix of self-evident and ... silly?
I don't feel like this. (that's not why I find it to be silly though- I don't care if people disagree with me, opinions are just opinions afterall)
However, if I dress very fashionably I feel more "NT" if you will. I definitely don't aspire to that any more though! I don't care anymore like I used to- causes a lot less heartache too. I've always been very pressured by family to be more hip and fashionable and presentable and such so sometimes I feel more... "socially appropriate" doing so. kind of like "look I am playing your stupid game now! Where's my cookie for being good?"

I'm not sure. As a kid I had a very narrow definition of femininity. I really wanted to be like other girls. I achieved that by having long hair and wearing dresses. Right now I'm more into feminism. I accept that some girls are just more comfortable being androgynous. I still feel awkward and autistic when I look androgynous. When I look feminine I don't feel the need to stim as much. I also think my body language ends up looking more NT.

I figure it's either 'armor' or...much as you may not want it to, based on something...it just fits? Sometimes figuring out who you are is learning to accept things about yourself that work but you wouldn't choose. Of course, you can always play with style so that you feel more NT *and* more like yourself at the same time.

Even for neurotipicals I've heard that buying a new suit can be a great confidence and self esteem builder if a guy is wanting to do something he is nervous about like asking out a girl or do a job interview. Confidence does tend to make people more charismatic, which is something that autistic people tend to be lacking in so it would make sense that it would make us seem more NT.