Aspergers/Autism vs NT People

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Do you ever wish that people from WP live in your town so you won't be TOO LONELY & feel SO ALONE? And have people really understand you.

I do long for someone with my condition, for NTs tend to bore me and leave me uncomfortable. Most of my real friends are ND, but have nothing like aspergers.

I don't think it would necessarily make a difference. Most of the autistic people I've met don't seem to understand me either.

Yes I had an aspie (or merely introverted) friend in school and it was great

I wish more people around me had an ASD or ADHD. It's not that NTs don't understand me. It's just that I feel like they're superior to me. They can make friends better than I can, and they can generally cope with a job, and they have better attention and learning skills, and don't have impulsive behaviour like I do. I always feel like "the one with the problems" and that everyone else in my family are lucky enough to be NT. I know NTs can have problems too, but my problems have a label and some make life so challenging, particularly employment.

I have a friend who has Fragile-X, and faces the same sorts of challenges as me. She finds making friends difficult, finding and keeping employment is a struggle, and she gets depressed from time to time because of the afflictions her condition causes.

I have AS people who are my friends (they are often my most understanding and best friends). If I can freely stim around people (like NTs), and they don't care then we are dandy, but they do care and are quite mean about it- most anyway. My AS friends really are the only ones that accept me as is.
We aren't necessarily similar but we have a bond by simply understanding important stuff about each other.

Although, they move or I move a lot though, so I don't really see my friends that often- so it can be isolating : /

This.

I don't get along well with others pretty much all the time (with a few exceptions), no matter if they are on the spectrum, have another personality disorder, are neurotypical, etc. I prefer to be alone, and that is fine with me.

Yes, I do wish that sometime. Would be nice to meet another Aspie in real life. Never meant one but it would be nice to finally talk to someone that gets you and actually have an in depth conversation about something meaning fun instead of whats going on with celebrities life or whats the latest social media trend.

I think it would be nice to know some people on the spectrum in real life. I can have conversations with NTs, and I don't mind interacting with them. But it would be nice to know somebody like me who I could talk to about some of the things that we experience. Plus maybe I'd have an easier time communicating with them. But I don't know, as I don't know anyone else with ASD.

There is a thread with a map for people to plot their locations -- maybe there is someone near you:

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^I just added my location to the map. Unfortunately there is nobody within 300 miles of me (at least nobody who has put their location on the map). The woes of living in the middle of a desolate desert.

This. Have been in school with autistic kids my whole life. Doesn't make that much of a difference. And there is also that familiarity breeds contempt thing.

I don't have a single friend. Maybe I'd have more luck with someone like me. Or not.

I just think that finding people who can be a good 'fit' in real life for us, no matter with whom, will always be difficult.

The time I spend here is not the same as in real life. It is a social interaction that does not require my complete attendance. I can float in and out. I can take time to respond. I can still get that royally messed up. I find like minded people here. Like minded as in understanding of issues that are strange to the population at large. Not like minded as in agreeing on things.

But, in real life? Would I be any better at picking up on social cues? Would we be more permittant with each other recognizing things are harder? Would we be just as cut off as from any other person?

Being ASD does not make me part of a club that allows instant repertoire between members. But it does, as mentioned, mean that somewhere (like here) I can finally, in all my life, say things that people can understand. But, would that translate into real life with all its attendant issues?

I wish I know someone who has Aspergers, it is easier to talk to people on WP than talking to my family, I email my cousin, she listen to me complaining about my sister & I can't talk to my grandmother very much, she won't understand. I been going to a coffee house, I'm talking to this one person, she is nice & I really like talking to her, she works there. But it can get pretty lonely & I feel soooo alone, I feel like it's me vs the world.

Think of it this way, Kitty. At least you could talk to that person at the coffee place.

It's better to think of the positive than think of the negative.