WEDDINGS...

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Unfortunatly I hate weddings and I don't understand the concept of love..
I couldn't arrange the seating plan becuase I didn't recognise any of the visitors, if only we had made boarding style cards in which the visitors could apply the card numbers to the seat numbers. How do I choose where visitors sit??

The wedding ceromony began with the usual, bride (mum) groom (husband 2b) and the exchange of rings.
Everybody in the room had a smile to exchange and could feel some attraction to the event that I just couldn't
I just couldn't smile and I didn't feel anything for my mum, I couldn't understand why she needed to marry and what it represents.

I was aware that everybody in the room noticed my non-emotional expression, they knew I wasn't smiling but they couldn't understand why..
I couldn't force myself to smile becuase I knew I had no emotions to show, marriage is a concept of love between two people that I don't understand.
I sat there with no emotions looking at people smiling but having nothing inside to show, I felt as though I was watching an event that I couldn't understand, but I had to go along with it anyway.

It seems awfull to think that I may have embarrased my mum....

I'll write further becuase I'm being kicked out by the library..

I was stuck in the basement of the church during the last wedding I attended with some gay guy who was quite funny. We started opening champagne bottles and we got quite drunk apparently. We had a lot more fun than at the wedding proper.

Everyone was motified that we whooped and carried on during the solemn Catholic service. At the time, I didn't really understand or much care. Now it is one of my prized memories.

I think you care too much, Photon.

I didn't go to some recent weddings... I didn't feel like wanting to go
I think I preffer not to go than to go and force myself to smile and act as if I'm enjoying it...

WOW, I pictured you as more staid than that! I guess, once again, I am reminded that I have to throw out ALL of my assumptions. WOW! I don't know WHY, because most assumptions people make about ME don't fit, but I figured I could trust them somewhat.

Steve

I never had a problem with weddings. I've gone to four of them. Two, four, seventeen, and twenty.

When I was two I was taken to a back room where the other kids were being held. I don't know why. I vaguely remember the event and I remember this other boy gave me one of his animal crackers to eat.

When I was four, I remember trying to eat this cake at the party and my mother kept telling me no and I couldn't understand why I couldn't have it. Before we always had cake whenever it was available so I couldn't understand why we weren't eating the cake. I even remember playing on the piano keys as the piano guy was playing it.


When I was 17, I sat out and played my games and left early because I got bored there.

When I was 20, I sat out also because the music was too loud and I played my games and read and few of my relatives came and sat with me and visited.


I remember I had anxiety at my last one because we wouldn't hurry to take our pictures with the bride and groom because it got cold out and was about to rain and I got upset becase we were slacking so I gave up and went in the building and decided screw the picture, I won't be in it. Right after they finally took the picture, it started to rain.

I have been told that the last wedding I attended I was visibly board, yawning through the whole thing etc... then there was the controvesy over the tie I chose (well actually my mum picked it out of my dads draw...)

A lovely silk tie... with silhouettes... of naked ladies - my friends were shocked that I could even wear such a thing in a church... I hadn't even considered it being a problem. I think there was also some shock that a respectable teacher would buy such things...

Weddings aren't fun, and I think I am rather indifferent as to whether I would actually want one...

I do sense some possible negativity in your post as opposed to the husband (calling him 2b) were you perhaps showing it on your face?

I got married in a small chapel off the Vegas strip. The only witness was the limo driver and the priestess only did a 5 minute ceremony. It was perfect.

People at weddings seem to have so many different emotions that I don't think anyone would even have noticed. There are the ones who are crying because they are happy (I don't get that one. It's weird). There are the ones that are fake happy and the ones who are reliving their own marriages and probably looking more serious than you. Don't worry.

I dont like em-I never want one in a church but if I was to get married it would be an intimate thing you know

i went to both of my sisters weddings, i was even in it. like apart of the wedding or something, i almost cried at my last sisters wedding, because i just remember when we were kids, i called her pig and we played with matchbox cars on the couch

Well, I didn't know that they would be able to hear us up in the chapel part of the church! I was just going along with what people wanted me to do.

Photon, you're not responsible for your mother's feelings. I would venture to guess that most people thought you were unahppy because you didn't want a new stepdad and that is a pretty normal feeling. Do you think your mother should have put you in the position of having to seat people? I can think of many jobs for aspies, but usher is not one of them.

I've been to three weddings, although I can only remember two of them. I thought they were pretty boring, and didn't enjoy them aside from getting to see my cousins.

Love is a complete misunderstanding between 2 idiots, marriage is a way of proving it.

As for being a guest:
I'm not very into the party aspect of the reception. My fiance understands, and so at the weddings we've gone to, we sat out the dancing portion and at one of them snuck out as soon as we finished eating the main course. His family was at the most recent one, however, and looked as us funny, making comments about how he was a dancing maniac at his bar mitzvah so he must like to dance. I guess they were implying that I was keeping him from having a good time. I just get so upset about the people around me being drunk and loud that I can't function.

As for my own wedding:
I'm getting married in a little under two months, and I think I find it even more stressful than most girls do. My cousin finally said to me, "I think you're a perfectionist." I can't deal with the small talk that everyone is supposed to make at the vendor meetings; I just want to get in, see my options and analyze them, and get out of there. Why do I have to suddenly act like my IQ is 50 points lower just for their benefit? We really wanted to go away to Hawaii and get married by ourselves, but FI's mother got upset, of course. It is overwhelming and I have had several screaming fits. Mostly just screaming to myself.

According to genesis god was the first pimp so I dont think he has much room to complain.

Seriously though I hate weddings so boring.

I didnt even bother getting married just waited for common law to kick in and voila

I hate weddings. Especially church weddings.