Any of you Worry about being alone!

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Im on the autistic spectrum, im 35 yrs old, i've never worked 1 month on a job but i went terribly as i couldn't do the job correctly, I worry as all i have is my mom, i have a sister but we are not on good terms at all. I worry if somehing happens to my mom what would i do ALONE!! ! Im so scared as all the money i have is from my disability check, i have moor skill prolems, ive never een alone!! !! Any of you guys and girls in a situation similar to mine,

I'm sorry you feel this way, sir.

Are there any resources for autistic people in your area. If so, you should definitely take advantage of them.

I can understand your fear. It's quite justifiable.

You seem to have a good intelligence. I think you, through your desire to survive, will enable yourself to better yourself.

Yes, it's just me and my mom.

When she goes I will be alone for the rest of my life.

I know, it's so scary, I fear how i'll pay he bills, and I fear I would get robed a night!! !! ! Its very scary and sad!!

i am not worry being alone but my mom does

I can understand your fear.

You should consult your autism society, and tell them your fears.

And your therapist, if you have one.

This is something you can't sit down on. You have to do something about it.

You really seem like an intelligent person. Let people help you with this.

It is not something I worry about. In fact, I dream of the day I can just be left alone in my own space and not have to interact with the world unless I want to do so --- which is not much.

AspieTurtle, you saying you dont wanna interac with the world that much. I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL! Someimes I wish I could jus be away from the world to!! !

I wish there was a way you could be happy, and not have to interact with the world.

But that takes money, unfortunately.

And the ability to take care of all your basic needs.

The more you can't do things----the greater probability that you will have to interact with people.

This is why you should seek independence.

I've already accepted my fate of being alone being the fact that my parents are the only people on this earth that I remotely care about. I don't generally have much care for anyone else in the family for they are either just there or don't really serve any purpose to my life.

You know, Chris McCandless had the right idea but the wrong venue. He wanted to isolate himself from the world so he trekked to Alaska and died just three months later, or something like that.

I'm basically isolated from the world myself, but I'm isolated in public. People see me all the time. I sleep in my car. I get food from food banks and food stamps. I only own one pair of pants, one pair of sneakers, two shirts and this laptop.

I said all that to say I'm pretty comfortable with owning very little and not wanting much. Since I'm resigned to a life of loneliness I may as well make the best of it. Setting myself up to get what I do not have is just setting myself up for failure.

Not really, because I expect it to happen to me eventually. All of my friends are older than me and I know my parents have only 20 years left on this planet at the most.

Now that I have moved out of my mother's into semi-independent supported accommodation, I am finding that approximately 90% of the time I am on my own. If I didn't occasionally stay with my mother and niece then I would be even more isolated. When my parents die and my niece grows up (she's 12 this year), I strongly suspect I will have no one left in my life. Without wanting to sound too mawkish and self-piteous, I believe it's almost impossible for me to connect with other human beings. Mere interaction with another individual is rather enervating and exhausting.

Apart of me can't wait to die.

Hello,

This is interesting thread. Like a few others have commented you should start working on this now while you have time. Perhaps trying to start a transition to more independence.

I'm going through the same transition myself. I am trying to live independently but I am finding it very hard so I am accessing support from social services to help me. Being dependent on people is very worrying, dependent on the state isn't great but it is stable (at least in the UK).

Hopefully I will need less help in the future, that's my goal anyway.

Regarding living in a car, I knew another aspie who lived that way. He liked it. I have an NT friend who lives in a van hidden in an old car park so its not only autistic folk who like to live that way.

There is something called the tiny homes movement, it's basically a more comfortable version of the same lifestyle.

Personally I can see the appeal but I don't have have the skills to do that. Perhaps in the future when I have stronger skills with making meals and stuff I will try living in a van myself. I tried having a home and I didn't like it much (but that was probably more to do with the lack of support than the house itself).

Jamie + Liom