My family thinks I've got worse

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I'm better at socialising and making/keeping friends than I used to be, and I'm also more self-aware and responsible for my actions, and I like to look presentable in order to fit in and be socially accepted, etc. But my parents reckon I have gotten worse emotionally. I've become more irritable, angry, anxious and demanding than I ever was. I don't understand why I've gotten worse like that, because since I was about 19 I've been coming on WP to talk about how I deal with life, and I've been researching more about Autism on the internet and watching videos about it on Youtube, and I thought it'd make me get a better understanding of it and make me feel less angry, but instead it's made me worse. My parents reckon I have, and when my mum said it, I actually realised she is right.

Is it normal for people like me to get worse emotionally, like more angrier and more irritable? If I'm like this now, what am I going to be like in 20 years time? What if I lose control of my temper and lash out and harm people, in years to come? What if I become so angry and irritable that I have to be isolated from everyone, miles away in a little shack? OK, that's just pessimistic thinking. But is this emotional distress something that gets worse before it gets better? Has anyone else here experienced this around my age? I am having counselling and she's referring me to CBT. So far the counselling hasn't helped, and I'm hoping the CBT will.

Well said Sweetleaf...

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Some people can spend all day in a social setting, then go home and still have enough energy left to talk to the parents on the phone, ask the spouse about their day, and read the kids a bedtime story. That's not me. It may not be you either. Know your limits. Don't blow all your energy with your buds and have zero left for your family. Budget, give everyone the energy they deserve, and give yourself the alone time you need to recharge. If everyone sees you a little less but it's a happier you, I think that's a good trade off.

I look at it this way--many NTs actually get recharged by good social interaction--they have no clue that is the exact opposite for Aspies--it wears us down.

So, realize that you only have so much energy for social interaction and plan accordingly.

I think you should take a breather for a while. It sounds like you're on the verge of a burn out and if you burn yourself out then you really WILL regress. I mean granted I don't agree with the act of fitting in to societies little box and all but whatever floats your boat is the way you kick it. Take a breather, and drink some tea.

My parents say the same thing of me. Angry and irritable.

To tell you the truth, I agree. I didn't use to have such a short fuse before.

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