Being hated and not knowing why?

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All my life, almost every relationship (friendship or any contact with people) I've ever had was negative.
Kids would hate me and bully me for no apparent reason (for me) I was never rude to them, never done anything that'd upset them and I even tried being nice despite it being difficult to me yet they'd hate me and get physical. Some would throw rocks at me and hit me.
It even happened with the neighbor (an old female in her 40's) she was my mother's friend so she'd say hello to me and try to be friendly everyday and even though I felt extremely uncomfortable I still said hey to her, in no time she started hating me making faces, calling me names saying i'm crazy, she literally acted like a 13 year old. I can count over 5 incidents this happened to me and I NEVER know why.
Can any of you relate? might this be an autistic thing?

hi, your not alone! i was bullied all the way through primary school and high school by my entire class, luckily for me though it only got physical in high school (two girls, one of them used to threaten and actually physically picked me up a few times, luckily i avoided her so she never got a chance to follow through on the threats) my relationships with other people always went negative too, except with my one friend who i have now.

i think its because other people can pick up on "being different" so take advantage of it in order to feel better about themselves, like currently at college these two guys always tell me to kill myself and that ill fail, even going as far to, when im sick for a while then come back, go on and on about how much better it was without me and i should be ill more often, or better yet just hang myself. apparently this may be because they themselves are feeling insecure and vulnerable and when they see a weakness in another person, they exploit it to make themselves feel better.

maybe thats what's happening with you?

I see that you live in Israel, according to your location, but it's been my experience that the vast majority of the Israelis whom I have encountered in the past tend to be very highly aggressive, although for some reason I was able to command the respect of a number of these people, and they were willing to listen to me to withhold from their military aggressions unless I signaled my approval of any particular targets.

I believe that this phenomenon has less to do with you being autistic and more to do with a mind-control phenomenon that gets all of these various individuals to aggressively target you. What are your options of moving to a safer location ?

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It is common for autistic people to not know why other people are bullying and targeting them. It often has to do with poorly reading other peoples body language and non verbal language in general. Also autistics often use non verbal communication less or do it differently. Non verbal comunications is very important for typical people.

Shalom and welcome to Wrong Planet

I like Alita's way of looking at it.

I also wanted to say that Ban Dodger is a nice person and I think his wording just came off wrong. Some people here at WP are a little more direct and it can seem rude if you're not used to them. But it was good that you stood up against treatment that you didn't like.

You're only 19. I think you haven't gotten to be around the right people yet. A lot of times, younger people don't have much of a choice about what kind of people they're around. You have to go to school and you can't choose where you live, for example. Now that you're an adult, you won't have so many of these environments that you can't get out of. You'll be around more people who share interests with you and like your personality. You're already liked here, so Wrong Planet is a place where you can find the right kinds of people!

This has happened to me before as a child and it was mostly because I had a speech impediment, I stuttered, kids thought I was rude or ret*d or stupid. I even would try and make friends with kids on the playground when I was six and I mostly got "Don't follow me" and I didn't know why they were acting that way. To this day I don't know why they didn't want me as a friend. Maybe it was because I came from special ed and there is a stigma about being friends with kids from that room. I always figured I was picked on because I was different. I knew by 4th grade I had more going on than just my speech because there were plenty of other kids in my school who also had speech issues and they didn't get picked on and singled out so it had to be something else about me. They were just mean kids.

It got easier for me when I stopped trying to be nice. Most predators (social, sexual, literal animal) seek easy prey. If you can return fire and vinegar, you aren't worth their time and effort. If you pair this with continuing to be nice to those who are themselves nice, you might even make a few friends who also are not fond of your current aggressors. >_>