Why do NTs accuse us of Having a Lack of Empathy?

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Theyare usually the ones who demean others for having even slight neurological differences. Why are they called "compassionate" and empathetic when they only believe that only a certain type of person is worthy of life? They are like herd animals; anyone who speaks with his true mind and heart is seen as a threat to this clannish group. NTs never fight using fair and just methods; it's always 2 or more against one. You want to know why? That reason is fear. They feel they are threatened when the status quo is challenged by an outsider with no interest in following their arbitrary clannish rules. If they truly didn't fear us and merely hated us, they wouldn't team up on one person.

they don't fear us so much, and they probably really can't help how they are, either.

I mean, if we can't help how WE are, how can they help how THEY are?

so don't take it personal, when you remember it's not your personality they are rejecting, it is usually because our moral requirements are deal breakers for them.

Because the sirens in their heads go off, when we mention that we have AS, and from that point on, they presume that we lack empathy, for others, when they're the ones who lack empathy, for us.

Sure in some cases, I don't feel much to empathize. But we do have empathy, we just don't show it in ways NTs consider empathy, and if we don't show it they automatically assume we don't have it. Also we probably don't have as much empathy towards things NTs generally have empathy for.

Daniel and Catalyist make a good point.


Although I'm undiagnosed, my empathy level is buried to the ground, cemented, and poured holy water over. This does not mean I will not help a person, but I'm not emotionally attached. I can't feel what that person has felt so how can I empathize? If I did it would be fake.


As a child I used to get teary-eyed when others cried, but that didn't mean I felt anything. I don't even know why i did at times, considering I wasn't even sad. Now, nothing changes my facial expression. I read and hear horrible news and think "That is the world we live in." A sense of depression enters me, but what can I do about it?


I for some reason tend to feel more empathic to non-humans than to humans. I feel like I can understand them more. Still, I do feel a sense of attachment to some very few people, yet I can't empathize with them or project that in any meaningful way other than just being there with the person. For me, it is the little things that I do, but many would rather it be a blatant offering. I just can't. I've never been able to.

What's an NT?

"Why do nts accuse of of not having empathy?"

Hi. You know sometimes people just tell lies to make themselves look like you are the problem. If they can make you the problem then to them and anyone viewing them tthey become free of guilt in the percieved way. Maybe they are embarrassed for having been wrong.

Thats not what I meant to say though.
*A person who is unable to see the process of your empathy, can not think that you have it.

Questionable science involving the notion that autistics lack "theory of mind" became ingrained into the public imagination.

I suppose they call our not herd-like behavior having no empathy. We don't automatically know what we have to do to fit in, so they think it's because we don't "feel" others. I feel others' pain, what I can't grasp is the non-verbal hints.

Because we show it differently or we don't show it so they assume we don't have it. We don't know how to react to how people are feeling so they assume we don't care.

quick answer - misconception.