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14 Jun 2016, 12:31 pm

I'm 19 years old and i have had a weird phobia of the "Happy Birthday" song all my life. It all started when I was little and got scared of loud noises, clapping and crowds. I have been improving as to coping over the past 3 years.
Does anyone else have the same phobia as I?



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14 Jun 2016, 12:48 pm

I don't but I can see why you might. It's usually sung at a party and everyone focuses their attention on you, whether you want it or not. It's also almost compulsory and you are expected to like it. Plus it's really creepy.


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14 Jun 2016, 2:28 pm

sm97 wrote:
I'm 19 years old and i have had a weird phobia of the "Happy Birthday" song all my life. It all started when I was little and got scared of loud noises, clapping and crowds. I have been improving as to coping over the past 3 years.
Does anyone else have the same phobia as I?


Try pretending they're singing to someone else, do you think that would help?


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14 Jun 2016, 3:21 pm

I have a phobia of attention in general, I find being sung happy birthday quite stressful, perhaps your phobia of the song stems from that?



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14 Jun 2016, 6:11 pm

Yes! Definitely! I don't understand why people need to sing and clap so loudly.

Actually, it makes no sense to me why people celebrate birthdays. Too much touching, people blowing a candle on a cake, that's bacteria and viruses from their saliva going onto the cake and being passed to everyone. Random gifts I don't even have a use for, weird "relatives" I don't know coming just because it's a party and has food. Loud music, loud talking, loud laughing. Unwanted inevitable attention. It all adds up to the "Birthday song" triggering the fight or flight response.

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14 Jun 2016, 6:26 pm

Not so much the song, but I HATE my birthday. It feels like too much attention and danger; irrational now that I'm adult, but it's still here. I found out later that this is somewhat of a spectrum "thing" for others too.


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14 Jun 2016, 8:34 pm

Now when you say phobia, do you mean "its scary to me and makes me anxious" or do you actually go out of your way to avoid it and it causes actual distress in your life?

Because i have a similar fear of popping balloons, not a phobia but a fear.

However i DEFINITELY have Emetephobia ( Fear of vomit and/vomiting ) and masklaphobia ( fear of masks or costumes- specifically full body mascot costumes *shutters*)

If anyones curious a Phobia is characterized by a fear but with seriously debilitating behaviours.

For example- if a person has a fear of spiders, they dont necessarily have arachnophobia.

A phobias behaviours are often extreme and people with phobias of certain things go out of their way to avoid the things they are afraid of, even in strange situations with no justification

For example i have a phobia of Vomit, i carry gravol with me at all times (anti-nausea medication) i avoid kissing my niece because children carry more germs than adults, i do not drink alcohol or eat anything that is within a day of expiration.

Sorry that was a rant on phobias, one of my interests

But yes, i can relate and fears and phobias can be extremely hard to overcome


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14 Jun 2016, 8:48 pm

No but have phobias. things I avoid that may cause me to SERIOUSLY injure someone thinking to make joke of enforcement. Things I not only fear but will make me vomit, faint or go ballistic. Most have a trauma behind them and two I was able to get functioning over
Functioning: Fear of drowning in a car(has no basis unless you count a palm reading at age 4 while my mom was getting hers done) - I have a knife I could slay a rhino with to cut the belt, and until my last vehicle, never had power windows.
Fear of Underground ( I have residual claustrophobia quirks)

Fear of large crowds around me





The rest:
Fear of Storm Drains (if I didnt pass out people have lost teeth trying to force me to walk over one in curb to be cute)
Fear of Escalators (stairs please)

Fear of the Ocean (nnnope)

Fear of things flying near me (not just bats, birdies, moths, wasps, if it is in swat view it will die or I will be crying wreck)


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14 Jun 2016, 9:07 pm

Not so much the song itself, but I have forbidden anyone to sing that song at me since I was a young child.
To me it's the whole birthday thing - too many people too close, too much attention, touching, cakes / candles, all the forced fakeness of it. I stopped my parents from doing this to me while I was still a child.
Birthdays are easier as adults - you can just stipulate that you'd like to go out for a quiet dinner with a few relatives or friends and skip the whole circus. Maybe it's that which freaks you out, and your avatar for that situation is that infantile song?
I didn't know this was another "thing" common to many people on the spectrum.


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15 Jun 2016, 1:45 am

SilverProteus wrote:
sm97 wrote:
I'm 19 years old and i have had a weird phobia of the "Happy Birthday" song all my life. It all started when I was little and got scared of loud noises, clapping and crowds. I have been improving as to coping over the past 3 years.
Does anyone else have the same phobia as I?


Try pretending they're singing to someone else, do you think that would help?

I would be scared of the song no matter whose birthday it was. Still am, sort of.



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15 Jun 2016, 1:48 am

milksnake wrote:
I have a phobia of attention in general, I find being sung happy birthday quite stressful, perhaps your phobia of the song stems from that?


It could well be. On my first birthday we had a party at home with all the family and at a point i fell asleep. When it was time to cut the cake, i thought i'd heard my family shout at me. This could be a reason i hate being shouted at to a point where i start crying.
I didn't explain properly, but i am scared of the SONG not it being sung to me but to ANYBODY.



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15 Jun 2016, 1:51 am

ZombieBrideXD wrote:
Now when you say phobia, do you mean "its scary to me and makes me anxious" or do you actually go out of your way to avoid it and it causes actual distress in your life?

Because i have a similar fear of popping balloons, not a phobia but a fear.

However i DEFINITELY have Emetephobia ( Fear of vomit and/vomiting ) and masklaphobia ( fear of masks or costumes- specifically full body mascot costumes *shutters*)

If anyones curious a Phobia is characterized by a fear but with seriously debilitating behaviours.

For example- if a person has a fear of spiders, they dont necessarily have arachnophobia.

A phobias behaviours are often extreme and people with phobias of certain things go out of their way to avoid the things they are afraid of, even in strange situations with no justification

For example i have a phobia of Vomit, i carry gravol with me at all times (anti-nausea medication) i avoid kissing my niece because children carry more germs than adults, i do not drink alcohol or eat anything that is within a day of expiration.

Sorry that was a rant on phobias, one of my interests

But yes, i can relate and fears and phobias can be extremely hard to overcome

Yes it is a phobia where some behaviours can be debilitating, and i try hard to avoid the situations sometimes unless unexpected e.g. in a restaurant and at some point a table starts singing the song. If i get invited to a birthday party, i don't go as i wouldn't know what time it's going to happen.



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15 Jun 2016, 5:42 am

sm97 wrote:
I'm 19 years old and i have had a weird phobia of the "Happy Birthday" song all my life. It all started when I was little and got scared of loud noises, clapping and crowds. I have been improving as to coping over the past 3 years.
Does anyone else have the same phobia as I?


It's sounds to me like your phobia is of loud noises, clapping and crowds, not of the song.


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15 Jun 2016, 1:14 pm

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sm97 wrote:
I'm 19 years old and i have had a weird phobia of the "Happy Birthday" song all my life. It all started when I was little and got scared of loud noises, clapping and crowds. I have been improving as to coping over the past 3 years.
Does anyone else have the same phobia as I?


It's sounds to me like your phobia is of loud noises, clapping and crowds, not of the song.

I actually am afraid of the song. Everytime i hear it, i get super anxious. Whenever I think of being at a birthday party, my palms start sweating and i tense up. So I can be afraid of the gathering part. But I do go to gigs.