Joined: 15 Mar 2016 Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 132 Location: Orphan Black
29 Jun 2016, 11:14 pm
I know this will sound weird but, do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to your NT friends or classmates you use to know? For me, I find myself looking at my former close NT friends/classmates and most are done with their degrees, have stable jobs, and are married or engaged. Meanwhile, I'm finally finishing my BA in two months and about to start on my credential paper work/ courses after. It's hard for me not to feel like I'm not measuring up/ like I'm the guy on the ground in this video when I look at my friends' lives. Anyone else have this issue?
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I used to get good grades at school. Now, at university, I don't manage to take as many exams per semester as I should and I've never had a job. Many of my former class-mates already have their bachelor's degree and were doing part time jobs or worked during holidays. Took me a while to get used to being a failure, not only socially (which I knew I was ever since I can remember) but also in most other ways.
Joined: 25 Aug 2013 Age: 67 Gender: Male Posts: 38,084 Location: Long Island, New York
30 Jun 2016, 8:18 am
i have never been anything rometly obsessed with how my classmates are doing. On occassion I have thought to myself "I wonder what become of (name of person)". The thoughts were not related to neurotypicals in anyway because I did know I was autistic and they were neurotypicals. Since my diagnosis I have come in contact with a few classmates and people that grew up with me on my street via Facebook. Still not more then mildly curious.
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Joined: 9 May 2015 Gender: Male Posts: 3,932 Location: Canada
30 Jun 2016, 10:02 am
I've struggle with one serious health issue after another during the past 10 years so I stopped comparing myself to the progress of others a long time ago.
For me its more like I'm comparing myself to family members. I have a cousin only a little older than me and she can drive, finished college, and has a great job. I have a job but that's it. Also my siblings and younger cousins are all catching up to were I feel I am stuck at and I see them starting to pass me in social maturity and reaching "milestones" I still havn't reached. It makes me feel like I should be better. I don't really beat myself up about it, but it does make feel a little disappointed in myself. I'm afraid my parents might be disappointed too... They've never said they were though.
29 Jun 2016, 11:14 pm
