act way different around family then anyone else

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I find that I tend to act more like a little kid around my family and around any other people am more mature. I disregard all the stuff I learned in social skills class about how to talk to people and just interrupt people a lot and other stuff like that. I also cry a lot around my family and get more mad, mad about little things and such. I do act more like a little kid in that sense. With friends I am more mature I guess you could call it like I pay a lot of attention to remembering and using the social skills I learned and not interrupting and crying a lot, and getting angry. I feel like I am a different person around friends like a more mature version and then when with family my little kid side comes out. I don't know if it's just me who feels this way. Has anyone experienced this or even know what I am talking about?

I think to some extent this is normal. Everyone behaves different depending on the situation and who the other people involved are. Usually the more familiar and comfortable you are with people the more you can be yourself. To some extent that's normal, but of course most people don't get that child-like when they're with family.
Also, when you are around your family you get away with this kind of behaviour. It may annoy them sometimes if you interrupt them but they know you well and will tolerate behaviour that strangers and most friends would not tolerate. Possibly that's the whole reason why you act like that around them but not around anyone else, because you can without severe consequences but you can't when around friends or other people.

I don't think I act that much like a kid around anyone but one of my sisters does to some extent. She would only do it around family too.

It's the other way around for me. I act the way my family wants me to act and I let lose around my friends and be my self and act naturally.

Most people I know do that. My adult kids act like independent, mature, logical adults around everybody else or when they have company but as soon as they are home with family their inner 15 year old takes over. I was more childish around my mom, and when my best friend moved back in with hers a few years back for a while she noticed that at home she was back to her childhood and teenage mentality. It's normal. They have seem you that way for a long time and know how to deal with you. It's more comfortable to revert back to an easier way of being with them and many times that's childish. Especially when you're tired, upset or sick. It basically has to do with a set role for yourself and your family that you have in your subconscious. It's completely normal for NTs and for us. It's not abnormal not to, that just shows better self control and will than a lot of people have.

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