A former house mate has died violently.

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I don't react to death like most people.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-5fD7yAQ0k

We weren't very close and we only shared a house in college for a year but I can't stop thinking about him.

i don't understand the fringe episode clip with this post tbh but i'm very sorry for your loss.
i don't react to death like most people either...like when my cousin committed suicide i was the only one who couldn't cry, not even a little. i mostly just felt a kind of dirty emptiness. but i still couldn't stop thinking about him for a while, but i didn't feel comfortable talking to anyone about it because i was confused about my atypical "grieving process" and was worried i would come off as insensitive, especially to other family members. idk how you're handling your reaction to your former housemate's death but if you would like to talk to someone about him, what happened, or how you're feeling you can send me a message anytime

I'm sorry about your loss.

Sorry for your situation. I think even though we don't deal with death the same as others, we have to deal with it. I've had a lot of experience. A school shooting in high school 10 feet from me, time in the military, time working in EMS, friends who have died in plane crashes, and my best friend since 6th grade murdered a few years ago. These things affect us, even if they do so differently than others.

One of my favorite scenes from the movie about Temple Grandin was when she would say "Where do they go?" after someone or something died. I really connected to that, because you could see it was affecting her differently, but she was struggling with it just the same.

I don't know if any of this helps. I planed for a one sentence supportive post but then I just kept typing. I guess the best advice I have is to let yourself feel and think what you do, you're brain will work it all out in time.

Take care.