Anyone who feel more comfortable around children?

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Hi. I notice that a lot of children are able to say hi easily and ask interesting questions which are fun to answer and I feel that they ask because they genuinely wonder about it, are interested and actually want to know me, not because they feel obligated to or have bad intentions. They also tell interesting stories and they are easy to talk to. When I'm with others I feel so much pressure to say and do the "right" things. Anyone who feels the same?

I agree. It's more natural to be myself with children, at least when they're still young enough to be genuine. It's much harder with teens and pre-teens IMO.

I feel comfortable around my little cousins.

Yes, I'm very comfortable around young children.

I don't. I feel you have to speak to small children in a certain tone, and I'm so used to teens and adults.

When I done a work experience at a preschool (working with children aged 2-4), I didn't get on very well. I liked it because it was interesting and colourful (I like bright colours), but I had trouble interacting with the children. I stood about quietly, being afraid to show any signs of authority, and feeling awkward about getting down to their level.

Some children hate adults using that kind of tone to speak to them. They're feeling like they're belittled.
Of course I'm not saying that there shouldn't be some authority, but adults often use unnecessary condescension when they're talking to children, or even adults much younger than themselves, and children are very sensitive to that and sometimes resentful. When I was little, I was very sensitive to that and I used to rebel very badly against anyone who treated me that way. Even if it was affectionate baby talk. I hated that too.

OTOH, little kids love talking to guys who do cool stuff and don't talk down to them.

Yes, SMALL children----say, 2 to 5----and, only if they're not brats! I love, so much, to learn and explore, etc., and it gives me great joy to share that with someone. Adults usually think you're nuts if you find a butterfly, cool, or something like that; but, small children are so excited about the wonder of it all.

I LOVE how small children just say whatever's on their mind!!

At parties, I gravitate to small children or dogs.

I was at a going away party for someone at I work. I spent most of my time playing in the sand with a co-workers son.

I didn't feel comfortable around children when I was a child.

This has extended, somewhat, to my adulthood. Though I don't dislike kids.

This is especially true for very young children.

I'm usually fine with kids as long as they're not loud, and as long as I don't have anything else to do except look after them. I seem able to relate to them on their level, I guess it's the autistic thing about retaining the mind of a child in some ways. I always feel I'm on their side more than most adults are. Though I don't usually want to look after kids in the first place, it's a task I undertake with some reluctance, being so time-consuming and different to my usual way of life. Just that once I'm resigned to it, I do fine. Dad was even better with kids than I am, in many ways. He seemed to have more time on his hands. Like me, he stopped relating to them so well once they became teenagers. I guess teenagers usually get too trendy, and they often develop a contempt for all adults, for a while.

No, not in the least. I'm not comfortable around them at all, and quite frankly I don't like kids. I didn't tend to like them when I was a kid and I sure don't like them any better now. They usually stare, giggle at you and can be obnoxious and so blunt it makes me cringe, they're loud and hyper and think they're the center of the universe. Sorry, but that is not endearing to me. In addition I cannot be natural around kids and it feels like I have to play a role (and one I'm not suited for at that). So awkward! I dislike having to talk to a little kid, but an older kid or teen is even worse to deal with. At least babies and toddlers can be fun to be around, even cute. I find them more relatable at that age, and can more easily understand what they want/need.

I hated that as a kid and I hate condescension still. Only pushiness triggers me more.

I'm very comfortable around children, they love me, not to be braggy about it, but I feel some kind of connection. They are easier to talk to than adults, or even teens. My summer job involves kids and it's always a pleasure, really. They are oftentimes more quick-witted and straightforward than adults, so we get along easily.

So much so that people encouraged me to become a teacher, and I did. Sure, I had good rapport with many students, no trouble looking them in the eyes, etc., but working with them in large groups was too much. I managed to hold on for more than 10 years, but then I crashed, ended up in the psych ward twice in six months, now on disability and wondering what the heck I'm going to do, but I don't know about working with children again.

Yeah. They still make me uncomfortable, but not as much as adults, and definitely not as much as people my own age. My mom says I should work in a daycare.

Children cause me more anxiety than others because I suck at communicating with them... unless they like Lego, then I can interact with them.