Fakest Friendship Ever

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A former friend who I thought was a real friend ranted about me on facebook. It's pathetic and sad that after months have passed that he has to start up this problem again. Calling me a sociopath and one of the worst people he ever met. Now I admit that I had OCD and argued with things against him compulsively. But mislabeling me as a sociopath is vitriolic and misleading. He never knew me beyond the site of facebook for crying out loud, where does he get off making judgments about me. Yes I admit I have baggage and problems yet there is still no justification for what he did. I haven't seen him on the site in over seven months and suddenly he starts gossiping about me with such malice and disrespect. He did it unprovoked and with such distaste and hate in his heart. For someone who calls me bully he sure as heck seems to have no problem rambling about me months later in a hypocritical fashion. The title of this thread is fitting and unfortunately accurate, he takes time out of his life to character assassinate me despite the fact that our relationship has been over for almost a year. Its really disheartening.

All I can say to my fellow members on here is a cautionary warning about what facebook can devolve into if you meet up with the wrong people and situations.

I don't put up with garbage on Facebook.
I have no problem unfriending people who cause trouble
or who show themselves to be fake.
I feel so peaceful afterward.

I feel any virtual situation winds up like this often. I respectfully left him alone after he kicked me out of his life, and then without provoking him he starts up like the big bully he is and tries to ruin my name and make look like some sort of madman. Its painful because he has influence over a lot of my virtual friends so he could turn some of them against me. Hes one of those jerks that has a lot of power and influence on facebook so he can maliciously try to turn people against me. For someone who labels me sociopath, madman, psycho, or bully he sure has no problem trying to character assassinate me and bring up an event that's been over with for months. He's the real bully.

Does he know that you have OCD?

He did NOT give my OCD problem much thought. When our relationship abruptly ended he was naively convinced that I was somehow this hateful sociopath out to get different people. But truth is my intense opinions on certain people and things are largely driven by my OCD. I know for a fact that some people can confuse and mistake OCD for something much more serious than it actually is and that is possibly what happened in this situation. He was never equipped, prepared, or patient enough to deal with my obsessions, however that does NOT justify him to make a hate post on facebook about me long after we stopped communicating. You know he might have a touch of OCD himself considering that 7 months after the conflict was over and done with he had to resurrect this problem and mention how evil a person I am. Its been a long time since we stopped communicating and for him to beat a dead horse like this may show that he has a touch of the same problem I have. Its kind of funny he makes a s**t post about how much of a bully I am, despite the fact that hes the one bringing up an old situation and condemning me for it. What irony considering that hes actually the one demonstrating bully like behavior.

Sometimes people that grow to hate each other have more similarities than they'd like to admit.

I don't know your situation but I would unfriend the guy and block him. OCD can be a real b***h because it can make it hard for you to move on. I have learned to keep my thoughts to myself than putting them out there for everyone to read because people see it differently than someone who is suffering and dealing with intrusive thoughts and is hurting.

Are you sure he is talking about you? He could be talking about anyone.

To answer all of LeagueGirl's questions he blocked me before I could find out just how much of a problem he was. I discovered he was posting crap about me because one of my family members found out what he was doing through their account. It was obvious that he was talking about me because he was describing characteristics and flaws that I know I have and that were a big part to our difficult relationship. The problem with this situation is that this fake friend should have not been beating a dead horse after the issue was done with for months. Additionally for someone who says I'm a bully, hes the one using roundabout bullying tactics. After my communication with him ended I respected his wishes and never contacted him again. Seven months later he brings up an old situation that I thought was over with then attacks me with everything hes got, throwing everything at me but the kitchen sink. So I take the moral high ground and never contact him again, and what he does is rehash an old event in order to express his hate and anger management issues. If he truly had a life he wouldn't spend his time trying to character assassinate someone whose been out of his life for almost a year. The hospital he works at and his virtual buddies on the internet are really all that he has in life because if he had more going for him he would bury our past instead of showcasing it on his facebook page for all to see.

What is even more dangerous is he is using some serious terms like sociopath or one of the worst people I ever met. Those are some pretty serious claims to make for someone you did not know beyond the chat room. The most bothersome thing is that when he uses the term sociopath or crazy person so casually he forgets just how vitriolic and dangerous those terms actually are. In fact terms like sociopath were made to describe people like Hitler, Stalin, Manson or Jeffrey Dahmer. THOSE TERMS WERE NEVER meant to be misused to refer to a person like me who he just had a dysfunctional relationship with. He misuses those hateful terms just to describe a person from his distant past who he had a bad falling out with. He uses very loaded language like that so casually and loosely and it kind of annoys and offends me. He gets so overemotional that he kind of overstates things and gets crazy himself. In some cases he becomes the very thing he describes me as being. Sadly some of his facebook friends believe whatever he states and eat it all up.

Also League Girl your probably correct, in retrospect he probably mistook my OCD and thought it was something much worse than that. Which is probably why he made the naive assumptions that I'm somehow mentally insane. OCD makes it difficult to shut off certain thoughts and things that bother you and I get that he was NOT prepared to understand it. Yet that still does NOT rationalize the pathetic s**t post he just made on his facebook wall.

He has his own problems he views many people he has a major beef or disagreement with as a monster. Just because my relationship with him had a dysfunctional and rocky ending does not mean that he is somehow an expert on me and can somehow mislabel me as mentally insane. He barely gets out of his own house beyond the volunteer hospital work he does so its kind of laughable that he somehow can make a conclusion about my mental state the same way a therapist or doctor would. I realize our relationship was rocky and I realize he never truly understood the issues of my OCD but he still comes off as the bully for trying to resurrect an old issue and create drama out of it.

Sounds like he has his own problems as well. Don't take it so seriously. He has ruminated and been overthinking his problems so as you seem to believe it is most likely not your fault. If he doesn't mention you in name, it is only his own problem now. And hey, since he has such a big problem, why don't you try to be nice and clear it up by making him feel better? You could apologize for whatever wierd stuff he believes whether you did it or not and try to create a better atmosphere. Maybe you were right all along or not, but does it really matter?

He does have his own issues, but reconciliation is impossible. He has so much hate in his heart over this situation that he cannot even see when he himself is being an obnoxious ass bringing up an old event that has been long over with. Yeah I made some mistakes in our former relationship. In fact if he had NOT been such a jerk recently and tried to rehash this old drama I would've felt more sorry for what I did. However he is becoming a lot less sympathetic and much more of a dick when he tries to drag my name in the mud and pretend and lie that hes this righteous man for doing so. Not that I want anything to do with him anymore anyway, he basically broadcasts these problems to all his virtual friends without any restraint or consideration. He has his own mental issues but the problem is that I don't want him convincing people that I'm some kind of sociopath.. He can shove his opinions up his ass I don't care about his opinions of me anymore. I just don't want him to convince others into believing that I'm twisted. If he had more social awareness and tried being the good person he likes to consider himself being then he would lay off trying to ruin other relationships for me. He boasted and openly used to talk to me about doing the right thing, yet hes blasting me with hate-filled gossip that is an ironic contradiction. He can keep his angry opinions but its completely normal and justified for me to want him to shut up when hes trying to sabotage or sully my name. Again its strange he calls me a bully when hes putting effort into convincing others on his facebook page that don't know me that I'm some sort of freak. Again he seems to be demonstrating the type of bullying behavior that he claims to be against.

Now like I stated before there was a rocky and at times difficult relationship in the months and years leading up to the ending of the relationship. But again he has NO right to try to turn people against me, people must be allowed to form their own opinions of me without having this jackass trying to tell them what to think of me. There are many people who think much more highly of me than he does and I don't want his gossip or anger to be used as a weapon to turn people against me.

Snowcone you and League Girl bring up good points. I agree with you Snowcone that it does not matter what started this conflict, but there is no way to resolve it and it is best to ignore it as long as he does not mention me again. I actually don't want anything to do with him, and for someone who hates me I still seem to be a popular topic with him to b***h and moan about. For someone who hates me he puts effort into giving me attention and the spotlight on his facebook page.

It's not hard to see how hard all this is for you.

Hope you manage to find some peace from it soon.

It would be easier if he could shut his mouth and never bring me up in his conversations again. He obviously has his own mental challenges if I'm still a popular topic with him to ruminate about months after the fact. I mean his hypocrisy is amazing he calls me a sociopath and bully, then he gathers everyone he can talk to in an attempt to turn them against me. The problem is that this moron can turn people against me. Hes a popular user on facebook so he can manipulate, influence, and convince all his virtual pals that I'm some sort of maniac. This jerk may have had a rocky relationship with me but IT DOES NOT MEAN he can ruin relationships with other people I'm with who have a more favorable opinion of me than he does. I still have relationships worth preserving and saving and I don't need his manipulative gossip and bullying tactics to hurt what relationships I still have. I don't care about my relationship with him anymore hes turned out to be as crazy and as inexcusable as he likes to think I am. I'm just worried about him turning more open minded people against me with his gossip and libel. I still have relationships worth preserving and fighting for and hes trying to come in between that by resurrecting a battle that should've been over with over seven months ago.

I wonder if an apology would shut him up. Sometimes you have to do shut up apologies to end it all to move on so they will stop. Don't do it because you mean it or think he deserves one, do it to end this for your own sake.

I stay as far away from Facebook as I can. I created an account in the past, saw just how pointless it was, and deleted it after a month of constant email spam. It should be called Fakebook. Facebook "friends" are not real friends.

I don't use any social media . Don't want to.

Don't trust anyone on social media ever. They could be secretly plotting your murder for all you know.