Am I lazy or do I hate manipulation or surprises?

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We our moving to a different city.
So, we have 1 month to move, maybe more, and almost everything is packed in boxes.
But my mother needs somehow to do stuff Fast and does stuff totally unnecessary like fixing the house, smoothing over and painting the walls etc. although the buyer said he wants the house as is.
So the problem is, she kind of makes me do this stuff, or help her with those. And I would help her actually, even with unnecessary stuff. But my problem is she tries to trick me into doing this stuff and my energy level is low and I can't do a gazillion such things in one day. This leaves me extremely tired and even more so p**sed off (the manipulation and surprise stuff).
Like she says: "lets go do stuff in this and that room" and I say "what stuff" and she doesn't say anything meaningful. Then I'm confronted with lots of stuff.
Or she calls me to a room and then calls my father out and says: "bring the screwdriver so "we" disassemble this bookshelf."So this to me is manipulation + surprise. The problem is not that I don't want to do this stuff. The problem is I might be in the middle of meditation or something to make my crappy life somewhat tolerable and 2 seconds later I'm disassembling the huge bookshelf ALONE.
She is not very reasonable and I can't talk to her about this stuff so I'm looking for a solution how I can live with such thing.
I also don't have that much energy. never had and I also take Zyprexa. But she expects me to do this stuff all day long.
Also she talks in cryptic ways. like she calles me from a different room and shouts "put the box in the corner". Literally. There are many boxes and many corners everywhere. and she is not even in a certain room. Am I supposed to read her mind? This also p**ses me off massively. Again, I've told her to not to talk like that but she can't. and I can't make myself not be p**sed off by this way of giving information. So what should I do?
Moving out is at this time not an option although I'm working to do that. Also even if I lived in my own flat I would probably help with the move and have the exact same problems.

It's a constant thing I see with people. They tell you something and slip on their words, say something but meant something else, or leave out crucial details, and then I have to ask them to explain again what they want me to do. My mom does this all the time, and it can get annoying. It seems like sloppy speech to me.

I really hate being interrupted to do things, especially if I'm interrupted from one of my special interests. I generally don't mind helping people if it's some mindless task, but something like writing a research paper on women's fashion can't get me motivated at all. I tend to describe myself as lazy, but it seems more like obsession with one thing and complete boredom with other things.

Also she apparently wants to make me look and feel stupid.
She shows me and my father the parts of the book shelf and says:" we need to tape these". And I say what do you mean? she says: "yeah with tape, the tape thing". My father starts to talk some weird stuff. he didn't get it either.
And when I'm completely out of my mind after trying to understand, she asks me: "WHAT DO YOU THINK I MEAN? WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH THESE?"
Apparently she meant we should mark them with colored tape so the parts don't get mixed up, which they never would because the color of the finish is apparent enough. It's different from every other peace of stuff we have.. This is not me having asperger's it's her being schizotypal.

Am I lazy or do I hate manipulation/surprises?


...Probably a little of both.


('and' is likely better than 'or'. You can be lazy and hate surprises simultaneously)