Why do people talk about depersonalization like it's bad?

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It's an odd thing to say, but I kind of like the feeling of forgetting who I am, including my own name, and just sort of living in the moment.

You might be in the minority when it comes to that.

I generally do not go into a panic when derealization sets in with me... I tend to have a pretty consistent and profound sense of detach when it comes to my body and brain, so I'm kinda used to it. Still, it's not a good thing to me. It causes significant disruptions in my own ability to consistently be functional. Some days I do fine and plow through life, doing it all on automatic, other days I'm lost and spend all my time trying to ground and center. Therein lies the problem for me. If I cannot employ logic in the haze, I'm screwed and end up doing nothing all day except sit around and go, "Woah" or something. I do not always have someone in my house to help me on my bad days either. That can also cause problems.

For a lot of people, it is really a disturbing thing to have happen, especially if it is a new and sudden thing. I imagine it would be like a sighted person suddenly going blind. If you have always been blind, waking one day to not see is no big deal, you know? You already have knowledge on how to navigate life that way. Plus, it can make people think they are legitimately going crazy when it first happens. That is never a settling way to feel.

So yeah, I think talking about it like it's a bad thing comes from things like that... hard to function and scary.

I kind of liked the sensation. It was like being in a hyperspace bubble, like in Star Trek when they are taken slightly out of sync with our dimension.

However, it is a sign that I'm in trouble, psychologically. So while I can enjoy the sensation, I also have to make sure to take care of myself. When I was feeling this the most, I became rather suicidal. I was about 12 years old at the time. It was a bad thing that I got to a place where I needed to use this coping mechanism. So my suggestion is to not push away the depersonalization, but to look for ways in which you can reduce the pressure in the real world. Because like it or not, we live in this world and we need to be here to be healthy.

Whenever I've experienced dissociation, it was accompanied by a sense of relief. My mind was still going like crazy, but the physical sensations of anxiety were suddenly numbed. At the same time it seemed like externally emotions flowed more freely, like a giant boil just broke open and drained. I could cry and cry and it felt good. It felt a little like an alcoholic buzz.

Maybe it just felt good because it was nowhere near the misery of acute anxiety, the kind that is so uncomfortable and beyond control that it makes you feel as though you need to vomit.

Because people are people, not tomatos. As such, they should be treated as people, not as tomatos.

I think it depends on the person and situation. In the past I used to feel dereslisation a lot and most times I didn't mind because I stopped feeling afraid and was if I was in a dream or something. I've had depersonalisation too but I didn't really like cos once I stayed at someone's house and looked in the mirror and didn't really recognise myself properly.