Autistic moments
What moments do you have that remind you that you're autistic? Those times when you're busy with life, doing whatever you are doing, then something happens or you think something, and suddenly you remember you're autistic. That part of you is saying hello, it's me again, you're autistic side; you thought you were normal for a second there (not that we aren't normal but you know what I mean).
The list is obvious endless, but any recent moments or examples to talk about?
Multi tasking. Yes I am out in public and I am focused on what I am doing and going though my day I can't seem to remember to pay attention to my surroundings like where to pout my shopping cart for one while grocery shopping and I also miss out on social cues so I might not even notice someone is wanting to get through and when I do see them, I might misread them like I would expect them to do something else but they don't so I just assume they want to stand there. Then my husband has to correct me and says I am oblivious to the stranger. My mother calls me self absorbed. it's as if I can't do two things at once. This grocery shopping thing did recently happen a few days ago.
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Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed and ASD lv 1.
Daughter: NT, no diagnoses. Possibly OCD. Is very private about herself.
Nothing ever reminds me that I'm autistic, I don't have an autistic side. Autism is just a part of the whole and it's always there.
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Small misunderstandings that happen on daily basic because people aren't precise enough.
For example yesterday I was visiting my aunt on the countryside and she asked me to bring her "a small bucket inside a bucket with water", then pointed at a building at east and said "It's near the barn". I couldn't understand. "What? Where?" I asked because I could barely understand what she is saying since she called me out of blue (fortunately my brain recording ability worked and I was able to understand it by replying the recent few seconds of sound 3 times) and because what I knew as barn was a building at south and the building at east looked more like shed and I was confused. Everyone started talking at once that I am stupid, I don't know what a barn is etc. Eventually my dad said "Barn is this building" (he pointed south). I said "But she pointed that building." (I pointed east). "How was she supposed to point at the barn if there is a house in the way?" (there was a house directly at south from where aunt stood), "Like this." - I said, making a curved move with my hand, east first then south turn.
Once everything was clear I went near the barn and looked for "a small bucket inside a small bucket with water"(still running the few seconds of sound inside of my head to make sure it really was what she said). I found 2 small buckets with rain water with some smaller buckets inside of them and also 4 small buckets of rain water without smaller buckets inside. I thought for a while - I wasn't sure if I am supposed to bring the tiny bucket inside the tiny bucket or the regular ones and I also didn't know which of all those buckets I am supposed to bring. Eventually I brought one of those two with tiny bucket inside - one with least amount of water in because they were pretty heavy and this one was easiest to take. I figured aunt probably wanted me to bring that kind of bucket because the tiny one inside looked like it's being just used to take the water out of the regular one like you use spoon in soup dish and I was afraid she might call me stupid if I only brought the "spoon".
I gave the bucket of water to aunt and she complained I took the biggest, heaviest bucket of there (well, perhaps it was pretty big but it was only filled in half, the others were just a little smaller but full of water) and said "This kid doesn't think at all." which hurt me because I actually did a lot of thinking before I decided this bucket will be the best. Not to mention I am 27 year old adult, not a kid.
Soon aunt went to the barn herself and I tried to ask her which bucket I was supposed to bring and why the one I brought was a bad one but she didn't answer. I felt ignored and confused. I still don't know what I did wrong. In my opinion I did the best I could, given how little information I had. I wish I knew what I did wrong.
When I thought the WP adult issues section was about life problems adults face while being on the spectrum and it wasn't about that at all...
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LoL me too.
When I go riding I park at an out of the way spot that's little more than a clearing adjacent to the dirt track I travel down to get there. Sometimes it's busy, so we all reverse into the spot so that the tailgate faces the fence and the front of the car faces the road. This way, up to four or five cars can fit.
Recently, someone decided to just drive straight in parallel to the road. They were unloading their bikes and I did what I've ALWAYS done and reversed in anyway even though there wasn't enough room! The door of my car was within a couple of inches of the front of their car.
My wife and I both sat their, me processing what I'd just done, to the astonishment of the other riders. My wife later told me that she was doing everything in her power to not be insensitive and crackup laughing. I embarrassingly moved the car.
My apologies. I was expected someone to say this, and I added a disclaimer to my initial post, only to remove it. I guess a better phrasing would've been "what are those moments when you are obviously autistic to other people", or something like that. I'm not the best with phrasing things, and hoped people could kinda understand what I meant.
Some recent autistic moments for me was when I was gaming with a friend (by which I mean my brother because I don't really have friends). We were playing a zombie game co-op online (we live in different places), and the mission required us to get access into an abandoned school. The game went to a cut scene were we were told that the only access was through the basement, we were both on the roof of the school at the time.
So I take it literally and true to its merit, and climb down and find a basement entrance. I find the only one, but you cant access it, there is no "press [button] to enter" or anything. My brother stayed up on the roof, and walking around up there he finds another entrance, and that is the one we have to go through, he initiates it but I have to get back up there to get to him.
10 mins later he partly snaps at me to shut up about it, as - unaware - I had been going on and on about it since. "Why would they tell us to go through the basement if we can't", "I don't get it, it doesn't make sense", etc etc. I had clearly done this to a way over-the-top level than was warranted.
A couple of weeks ago. In a hotel in Germany with my partner. My partner asks me to put some money (about €1000) in the safe. I did...
Came back and the safe was open. He asked me.."Didn't you lock the safe?"..."erm, no"..."why not?"..."you didn't ask me too"...
thinking about it...it seems obvious I should have locked the safe, but he didn't tell me too so it didn't occur to me..
dunno if that's just stupidity or a sign of autism.
nothing was stolen thankfully
When I thought the WP adult issues section was about life problems adults face while being on the spectrum and it wasn't about that at all...
Lol! That's exactly what I did but for me I think it was because I didn't read the sub heading properly
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I don't interact with other people, except in a minimal capacity in grocery stores and the like. I have no idea how other peoples' minds work so I've no idea if other people view some of my actions as being "autistic" or "weird" unless they actually tell me, which invariably they don't.
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Last edited by Jute on 13 Sep 2016, 7:42 am, edited 1 time in total.
YES! Sometimes its when I walk into things though. lol.
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Some other everyday ones for me are:
- Inability to focus on TV if someone is talking IRL in the same room as me.
- Needing intense flavored foods due to hyposensitive taste.
- Always wearing my sunglasses outside, all year round, due to hypersensitivity to light.
- Getting overwhelmed if there is a strong smell in the air at the same time as loud noise, again due to hypersensitivity.
- Getting overwhelmed multiple times a day due to "cluster f**k" situations.
- Not being able to focus on what people are saying in public places.
- etc.
I suffer from both anxiety and depression on an everyday basis, sometimes I can get by fine, other times it's crippling. Autism tends to be the umbrella condition, encompassing both my anxiety and depression. I thought people would talk more about anxiety and depression in their autistic moments. It's good that people are clearly talking about autistic moments. But surely anxiety and depression moments come under it too, as they are a direct result of being autistic, certainly for me.
These include having palpitations, cold sweats, panic attacks etc. when:
- Smelling a familiar fragrance.
- Sudden loud noises.
- Loud noises full stop.
- Strong smells full stop.
- Temperature changes.
- Someone touching me.
- Anything related to sex.
- Unpleasant smells (especially when talking to someone with bad breath).
- Lots of commotion and movement (crowds, road traffic, etc.)
- etc.
For example yesterday I was visiting my aunt on the countryside and she asked me to bring her "a small bucket inside a bucket with water", then pointed at a building at east and said "It's near the barn". I couldn't understand. "What? Where?" I asked because I could barely understand what she is saying since she called me out of blue (fortunately my brain recording ability worked and I was able to understand it by replying the recent few seconds of sound 3 times) and because what I knew as barn was a building at south and the building at east looked more like shed and I was confused. Everyone started talking at once that I am stupid, I don't know what a barn is etc. Eventually my dad said "Barn is this building" (he pointed south). I said "But she pointed that building." (I pointed east). "How was she supposed to point at the barn if there is a house in the way?" (there was a house directly at south from where aunt stood), "Like this." - I said, making a curved move with my hand, east first then south turn.
Once everything was clear I went near the barn and looked for "a small bucket inside a small bucket with water"(still running the few seconds of sound inside of my head to make sure it really was what she said). I found 2 small buckets with rain water with some smaller buckets inside of them and also 4 small buckets of rain water without smaller buckets inside. I thought for a while - I wasn't sure if I am supposed to bring the tiny bucket inside the tiny bucket or the regular ones and I also didn't know which of all those buckets I am supposed to bring. Eventually I brought one of those two with tiny bucket inside - one with least amount of water in because they were pretty heavy and this one was easiest to take. I figured aunt probably wanted me to bring that kind of bucket because the tiny one inside looked like it's being just used to take the water out of the regular one like you use spoon in soup dish and I was afraid she might call me stupid if I only brought the "spoon".
I gave the bucket of water to aunt and she complained I took the biggest, heaviest bucket of there (well, perhaps it was pretty big but it was only filled in half, the others were just a little smaller but full of water) and said "This kid doesn't think at all." which hurt me because I actually did a lot of thinking before I decided this bucket will be the best. Not to mention I am 27 year old adult, not a kid.
Soon aunt went to the barn herself and I tried to ask her which bucket I was supposed to bring and why the one I brought was a bad one but she didn't answer. I felt ignored and confused. I still don't know what I did wrong. In my opinion I did the best I could, given how little information I had. I wish I knew what I did wrong.
Your Aunt is the one making the social errors. Just because we are the ones with autism, doesn't mean that every bad interaction is our fault.
1) You don't refer to a 27 year old as a kid.
2) You don't talk about a person in the third person in front of them.
3) You don't criticism a person when they are performing a task /doing a favor for you.
4) If a person doesn't understand your instructions, especially when you've used mis-leading body language, you apologize for your error. You don't make fun of the person who is trying to help.
5) When someone completes a task for you, you say thank you. You do not criticism how they chose to complete the task.
All in all, your Aunt sounds pretty toxic. And from what you said here, you did a terrific job being tolerant of her. She might not be labeled autistic, but she clearly has special needs if she thinks its OK to talk to younger people like that. Its really good that you were kind to her. That's not autism, that's basic human goodness.
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