What is the Autistic Dream?

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Someone dug up an old thread about the American Dream. But, what appeals to normal people may not appeal to someone on the spectrum. What do you want?

For me, that dream is simply this : To understand, and to be understood. I wouldn't necessarily want to change who I am, especially not for others, but my dream is to be able to read other people as naturally as NTs read each other, and to be understood as NTs understand each other.

I'm not diagnosed with anything yet, but this is mine:




- a job that I can do without stress, without office politics or having to look busy. I would be quite happy if it was highly routine / repetitive if I had freedom to think about whatever I wanted to think about while performing repetitive tasks.

- to be able to enjoy music and other interests without having to worry about social politics

- to be able to study to learn; to find some support where there's acknowledgement that studying to learn is a thing; to study in an institution that is more than a degree churning machine

- to be able to live free from insanity of bureaucracy

- to be able to live in a peaceful area with greenery and fresh air

- to have some social contacts with family and with friends with similar interests, a pet or two





- to move to Denmark (maybe)

... I could do without the job if there was a way to survive without it.
I doubt I could manage living self sufficiently though. Too much hard work.

To be accepted, and for the stigma and trolling and misconceptions of autistic people to stop. Like that's ever gonna happen.

would most like to learn wing chun and taijiquan to teaching proficiency(a few others that might be fun to take up as hobby/disciplines... muay boran, jeet kune do, kyūdō, yagyū shinkage-ryū kenjutsu). would also like to go back to school to learn about the mechanics of the human body, maybe to become a physical therapist for stable employment, but also be able to apply it to teaching martial arts on the side(as a passion, like in times of old, sustained by donation), or even tailor them effective for self defense to people with physical limitations. would also like to learn japanese, cantonese, mandarin, and thai... to possibly visit, or even train in martial arts in each language’s country/territory.

for old age, it’d seem most desirable to either retire somewhere near water like anacortes washington(grandparents lived there... very fond place in heart. they had boats and would go to alaska on their own.) or a mountain lake community.

That's an excellent question!

I would like

- a less stressful social life. Being able to relax and be myself and people accepting me.

- a part time job doing something interesting and learning something. Nobody harrassing me, no pressure. Just slowly pottering towards a goal without anybody being angry at me,

- better health. But I think my health would be better if I wasn't living with so much stress.

- getting a handle on my perseveration, because it's causing both me and the family too much stress

- lots of holidays - I really miss travelling, which I can't afford. If I won the lottery, I'd be in Paris before you could say 'Croquembouche'

...Even more than not being homeless , not being crippled ! !! !! !! !! And getting to go to uni .....................

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One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

My dream is to learn how to care for myself, so that I can then learn to care for others (better sensory processing and flexibility with change and transitions, executive functioning and self-care skills).

My dream is to understand others, and to be understood (better communication and socialization skills).

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31st of July, 2013
Diagnosed: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Auditory-Verbal Processing Speed Disorder, and Visual-Motor Processing Speed Disorder.

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I have lots of things I enjoy, and plenty I'd like to avoid, but I get stuck whenever someone asks me this question. Maybe I resist crystallizing a dream that I fear would soon shatter. I don't feel hopeless for the future, but I admit part of my optimism comes from my ability to find satisfaction in a variety of things. I don't want to pin my hopes on one small subset of that. It might result in feeling less satisfaction than I would if I had just kept an open mind.

This could just be me rationalizing my executive function shortcomings, though.

I'd like to see the complete breakdown of this world's system of things and the return to a more natural way of living.

For me is to go over your autistic traits. More like how Temple Grandin made it big.

To get my life back on track and move forward in all areas of my life.

My dream used to be to get people off my back; to shirk responsibilities. Now, it's simply to be able to function like a normal person and experience life.