Some Days Conversation Is Too Much

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Does anyone find that some days even listening to someone talk to you a problem , so much so that it doesn't matter what's said it just irritates you even if its a loved one. I don't know if its a sensory issue or not but I just feel like telling them to shut up ( never do ) , then feel like I'm a terrible person.

Absolutely. As time goes on, I more and more come to appreciate how much alone time I need in order to be okay. Sometimes I do fine around a people (or a few people even)... other times even people I value and care for just need to get out of my face and give me some room.

I know what you mean. Luckily I work for a small company in a small and very quiet office. Today there were four of us in and the only thing I said was to tell my boss that another colleague was off sick. That suits me fine. Working 8 hours in a place where people hardly talk is heaven!

At home, I get an hour or so when I cook dinner for everyone and the rest of the family knows to leave me alone. This is my quiet time.

Yes, I relate to this strongly.

Yes.

Yeah.

ugh, alot haha, i have days during each week where i just want to be with me,myself and I (no clue what that saying means but i like how it sounds haha)


its like this week, my dad was supposed to be in paris (he works 5 days a week and its usually in all sorts of places, so i usually only see him on weekends) and wednesday the rest of my family are out. but no, he is ill (he doesn't seem that ill though.....) so now my week is ruined really and i feel frazzled

Yes, allot of the time… Sucks when I spent most the week isolated and then my appointment for therapy arrives. I feel irritated and want nothing more than to leave; but I know I being out of the house is good.

Conversation is bad in a couple ways. First, it's the sensory overload, the yak yak yak. Second, the social demands, for instance if you tune it out to compensate for the sensory overload, then you are being rude.

Yes I have these troubles.

Yes, sometimes I'm annoyed by people even saying hi to me.

Yeah. Sometimes I wish I had my tongue cut off so I'd have an excuse to not to talk.

I don't like conversation.
I don't mind listening if it is an interesting topic I have deliberately decided to listen to (lectures, podcasts, tutorials, etc) or listening to others converse if I am not expected to contribute. Movies count there.
But most people just talk a load of inane, pointless sh!t all the time and never shut up, "small talk," and it's like it's contaminating me. I don't want to have it in my head, the sound of it, the empty, boring, repetitive contentless nature of it.
If someone is talking to me about a problem, I interpret this as they want me to fix it. They are outlining the nature of the problem so I will have a better understanding of how to solve it.
I don't understand when they then refuse to let me fix the problem once I have understood it - especially if I am willing and able to do so with minimal effort. Why tell me about the problem, then refuse to allow me to fix it, then just continue talking about the problem?
I was thinking on the base nature of different conversation styles, and much prefer a creative style than a complaining style. Much prefer proactive, positive, engaged dialogue than simply bitching/moaning/complaining.
But I'd hazard a guess I'm not the only one there.

Im not sure if Im just a grumpy old man who's not interested and being rude or it's sensory overload. I so introverted that anything that takes me out of my head is usually an anoyance

Lol same for me

that must be difficult it usualy takes a few sentences before I start to notice my mind doing things I didn't tell it to do i.e try and tune the conversation out except for the last few words of a sentence just in case I get accused of not listening

I usually find certain times of day worse than others. First thing in the morning is difficult for me, for instance, or when I just get home from work.

OTOH, where I work is a small but very chatty place. Lots of conversations going on and the sound just carries throughout the office. That's where noise-cancelling headphones and drone music come in very handy.