using toys right or appropriately

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In books where they are talking about a character with autism or Asperger's Syndrome they sometimes say 'use toys appropriately'. Like in the book Carly's Voice by Arthur Fleishchmann with Carly Fleshmann they are describing her in her early years and use the phrase 'does not use toys appropriately'. That is on page 53.

So what? I can see how it would make a difference with toys that have zippers and other things needed for life skills but not all toys have that. Who cares if toys aren't played with as the maker intended?

I think what this is getting at is there is a 'typical' way NT kids will play with their toys compared to ASD kids.
ASD kids might get fixated on a certain part of a toy such as a spinning wheel, alternate between picking toys up and throwing them away, line them up (organise them), or just be seen as using limited imagination in their pretend play. It's a trait but doesn't have to be a problem if that makes sense?

Right is in the eye and or brain.

I love improv and a game called props.

In my work, I have anectodaly noticed NT's holding back their imaginative play.

Me- still learning to play well with others.

One might add "What box"?

I think it can become difficult for those of us that are very rule driven. The game is played this way and anything that deviates from that can be problematic.

For example: my 6yr old son will ask me if I want to play the game sorry and I say sure. He will start making up rules out of nowhere. I understand he is 6 but for me I can't handle it. The rules are the rules and that is the way I want to play the game. I know it sounds crazy but that is just the way I am.

In my younger days it was very important for everyone to follow my rules. ( which at times varied widely with others point of view )

Me playing better with others these days.

I get confused about the way I played as a child, because I always made my toys socially interact, whatever they were. I remember one time I was at a great uncle's, and he didn't have any toys for me to play with. I wanted to play with something, so he let me play with a box of clothes pegs. They were all different colours and I pretended they were people, or perhaps 'talking pegs', interacting with each other.

I had a set of jungle animals as a kid, and I'm not sure how a child is ''supposed'' to play with jungle animals, but I made them socially interact with each other. I put all the cubs together and made a 'school', while the adult animals were going about their daily business. Sometimes the cubs argued and disagreed with each other.

As for imaginary games, I got so lost in my own imagination that I would get carried away. If I made up a game to play, I would want it played my way, but if other kids made up a game then I would play it their way, and I could engage in social play quite well, providing everyone wasn't tomfoolering in the game and spoiling it. I was better at playing with toys with other children, although I did enjoy imaginary play.

Funnily enough, what I liked to do most as a child, with other children, was muck around (if we wasn't playing any games). I was always looking for fun, and things like turning off the lights and messing around the room in bed sheets was so fun to me, and I could have gone on for hours. (This was not really something I did on my own, as it was more fun with other children). But when children wanted to do something calm and uncreative, like sit and listen to music on a CD, I hated it, and would keep making up lies like saying ''that CD player doesn't work properly'', because that was ''too mature'' for me, and I wanted fun.

The world was a continues to be my toy store.