Do Spectrumites have eye contact with themselves?

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Just a query that popped into mind. (in the sense of in a mirror or in a photo or something)

I'm perfectly able to have eye contact with myself in these sorts of things.

I can look at myself in the mirror.

I can have eye contact with myself if I look in the mirror or other reflective surface, or if I am looking at a photo of myself.

But I find that when I look in the mirror, I have difficulty connecting what I see with me as a person. It's like what I see doesn't feel real.

I sometimes don't feel real.

I think sometimes when I self harm it is because I feel disconnected from my body / image in the mirror - it's like it is okay to hurt myself because I'm not real - I'm not really me.

Hurting myself is a way of checking I'm real- and then when I hurt myself and realise that I have marked myself - that I am real - I hate myself for doing this to myself.

Sorry if that sounds wierd - I hope no-one thinks I am a bad person for this.

I can't with my best friend or my brother and I'm sure they both are Aspie. I notice they don't look at me either. We all kind of looks at parts of ourselves. I also hate looking in the mirror and feel completely disconnected with what I see there. If I stare into my own eyes, I get the same sensation I get from other people.

Hi KBABZ,

Thanks for that - I'm glad you like the avatar

I'm glad you understand the feeling of being disconnected from the image of yourself you see in the mirror. It's nice to know it's not just me!

When I am in a public restroom, it is very, very difficult to look at myself in the miiror when there are other ladies doing so......I also cannot look at mirrors in public stores, it just makes me very uncomfortable...I have nice facial features, I should not be afraid to look, I just am so uncomfortable with that....I used to have the deer in the headlights appearance when people took my picture,now I relax more and take better pics.......

Well, it's hard to think that you aren't real when you have 2 kiddos following you in and out of every room you go into, asking for things all the time, getting into fights and needing your intervention. I guess over time after adjusting to it, it just became a silly question to me because there are 2 very good things in my life constantly reminding me that I very well am here, and am needed

Before though, I would sit in a room for hours by myself, doing pretty much nothing-staring at the wall, thinking, spacing out, sorting things, I didn't feel real because I wasn't doing what others normally would do and because no one seemed to mind if I wasn't around, lol. Guess watching someone do the same things over and over and over isn't exactly entertaining So I started to wonder about it from time to time.

I do these things now, but am constantly brought back with "MOM! Libby whacked me on the head with her cup!! !! !! !! !! !! !!" or cries of "owwie!" and needing kisses for 'owwies', lol.

I fell for it again.
I thought this thread was about zx-spectrums.
im such a ret*d

I actually make amazing eye contact in the mirror and half the time I also love making faces in the mirror haha

I have difficulty making eye contact in the mirror. Its almost as uncomfortable as looking at another person. I almost wrote real person instead of another person. I don't feel I'm real and sometimes and startled that the person in the mirror is suppose to be me.