Why do I always think I'm in trouble

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Every-time I'm getting ready to go out and go to my volunteer position at the animal hospital, I always say to my cat, "I just know the vet is going to fire me today!" and when I'm done, they thank me for coming in and tell me I'm free to come and go as I please. One time I went to their other location which is about an hour away by bus. The vet told me she had good news and bad news. She said the good news was I made it there and the bad news was that there was really nothing going on. I'm like, "Oh good! I thought you were going to tell me I was fired." A technician overhead us and asked, "How do you get fired from a volunteer position?" The vet said it is possible and that her husband's brother actually did once from an aquarium.

I did get in trouble once for badmouthing another vet but I basically got reprimanded and told, "We don't talk about other veterinarians like that." That's all. Not really a reprimand either. Just explained to that it's not nice to gossip.
I didn't get fired or anything. Eventually I hope I can get promoted from "glorified candy striper" to actual veterinary assistant. But anyway, whenever I do something, even something as innocent as accidentally knocking over some Christmas cards after bumping into the wall they're hanging up on (I put them back up) I think, "I am SO fired!"

I think it's from all the times as kid I was always yelled at and blamed. People don't understand why I want to legally change my name in the future, but it's because whenever I hear my actual name, I think I'm in trouble. For years whenever I heard "Jessica", it was usually followed by something like, "Why did you do that?" (and when I tried to explain why I got, "Don't talk back to me!") My mom would also tend to flip out and practically have a conniption over the most trivial things. Whenever my mom was angry, I naturally assumed it was because of something I did. At school, I was always the scapegoat. If something was broken, missing, or it was the Apocalypse, it didn't matter, "Jessie" did it! (I refuse to let people call me "Jessie" as an adult and would appreciate it if people didn't even call me "Jessica" because it brings up too many bad memories.). Anyway, could this be why I always think I'm in trouble as an adult?

I can totally understand this, abuse like that mentally scars you. Honestly I very nearly changed my real name and I think it's a good idea to eliminate a lot of negative memories rather than going through a long process of having to accept your name after all the negative stuff associated with it. It's essentially an easy way out.

Essentially what is up is that all these people who would shout and throw blame at you has conditioned you into thinking silly things will always be your fault which I would presume you have a bit of social anxiety too right?

You need to do some kind of healing because all these silly day to day things aren't going to be your fault all the time or they're so minor that they have you completely confused with the scale of how wrong/right they are. I'd go a professional about this problem so they can offer some proper advice on how to resolve this.

You don't need to be on meds for this though, it's just a case of learning how to overcome it and get your right/wrong scale back to a less nerve wrecking one.

I see anxiety and PTSD related stuff on your post. Therapy could be the answer to help you overcome this so you aren't always thinking you're getting fired. I'm guessing you have given yourself a nickname because you don't want people calling you by your legal name or do you go by your middle name?

No, they call me "Jessica" like everyone else. The receptionist and groomer sometimes call me "Jess", but if they called me "Jessie" I fear I would "loose it". "Jessie" is what I was called as a child (I hated it then too, but no one would listen to me and insisted on calling me "Jessie".)

That could be why. I was in trouble alot as a kid & teen & sometimes worry I'm in trouble when I'm not. I always think I'm at fault when my girlfriend is upset even thou she has anxiety & depression & can take things the wrong way.