Feeling like a oddball and bad about myself

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I've started to really struggle with negative beliefs about myself and comparing myself to other people, mostly NT people, and what it means to be one. I guess over the last year or so the more I've stepped outside the house, the more disconnected I feel from other people and the world. As I have ASD I always felt this growing up as a kid but in my early 20s and what it means to be a adult, I just feel a failure and the odd one out.

There are some merits to my Aspergers, my interest is music and I have so much focus when it comes for that. But the older I've got and seeing how the world works I feel quite left behind and think more about the negative sides of my diagnosis. I am very sensitive.
I get the impression that many people's air they breathe is with being with other people, making friends, relationships and understanding each other. And its all shown in the media too.
The rest of my family is NT and they say things sometimes like how they can read other's body language and what it means. Its just like everybody just gets each other and knows what to say and act in this world.
I've definitely felt the pressure about this in the form of relationships, and the expectations of the male to a woman today and uncertainty. I don't have many friends, no social status nor drive. I spend most my life just working on my interests which involves sitting at a screen talking to no one. I tried to move away in hope to make more friends but the longer I stayed the harder I realised it would be, and how different I felt to others I lived with.
Bascially I have tried coming out comfort zone doing things that NTs might find doable and natural. It feels so difficult and always wonder what it'd be like to naturally understand people, and feel like I don't have any form of social identity.

I just wanted to post this in hope I can hear from others that feel same way, or what it was like for them in 20s. And how I could maybe stop these negative beliefs.

I understand where you're coming from and I feel the same way. It can be tough to be the odd one out and not don't fit in. I think many people do and there are allot of pressure to fit in and do what is considered normal. Stay true to yourself and remember you are an individual and unique.