How are you capable of living?

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I read that most aspie/auties are capable of living independently, in a group home, or with their families.

I'm sorta like in between those three.

well.. i roomates with my moms. of course i pay half of all the bills, and she hasstles me everyonce inawile but for the most part i am my own boss

My family look after me.

I live by myself with my 2 kids, I'd rather have someone else here at times just to feel safer, but I do fine for the most part. My "rules" in my house are a bit too weird for most people to understand or handle, and I don't have to explain these things to other people-it's just how it's done in my house. I also don't get hassled to do this and that, I can do things at my own pace and that's really nice-if someone is telling me over and over something needs to be done it will NEVER get done.

It also has it's downfalls though-sometimes things just don't get done because I'm not pointed in the right direction of what to do. Things do tend to pile up sometimes, and while it's nice to do things at my own pace, it also is extremely overwhelming to try to stay on top of things by myself.

I'm currently staying with a family member until I can pay off some of my school loans and get a new car, but I'm planning to move to another city and I suppose I'll rent an apartment and live on my own there. I might try to find a roommate, but maybe not if I can handle paying the bills myself.

been making it on my own over a year now, after spending the first 24 years of my life living with my mom. It's challenging, but I like it, and I've been able to manage for the most part.

I live with my parents. I pay them rent. And I help out with chores. I kinda rebel against the chores though
I am told by my mom that one day I will live on my own on day, but I'm kinda nervous

I still live with my family.

I live with (unrelated) flatmates. Lived on my own for a few months.

By myself. The idea of having somebody else living with me irritates me significantly.

I own a house, of which I'm renting out two rooms. One of my tenants/roommates is an annoying flamboyant gay guy, and the other is a quiet military girl. The former is moving out soon though, of which I will be happy about.

my wife (we've been together 24 years) and the kids have generally treated me as one of the kids but stuck in moody teenagedom which occasionally I break out of; they (much better than I) recognise the early onset of my meltdown phases and "disappear" until all is settled once more (I tend to be unaware of my anger until it passes).

Without them I'd be in a bedsit sleeping from 9 pm to pass the time until work the next day - sedentary and dull - and gradually getting thinner and thinner (at least that is what happened whren I left home for six months) - could I cope on my own - no?

On the positive side, with my family's encouragement, the CBT I'm currently undergoing is having a positive influence.



Michaelmas

I have lived alone or with roommates since I was about 22..(plus or minus the few months when I first attempted it at 19)
I get alot of assistance from my folks...don't drive..so have mostly lived within biking distance from work...Have spent a lot of time working multiple part-time-for-friends and family-under-the table-type low wage jobs...Have managed to find places with really cheap rent...but for the past 4 plus years (minus some months) i have lived with boyfriend Flakey and helped run SHFL.

I live in my own apartment, but I get:

1. A morning shift where people come in to help with things.
2. People helping with showering some days in the afternoon.
3. An afternoon/evening shift where people come in to help with things.
4. A night shift where there is non-intrusive electronic surveillance wired to different things in my house, and they can be called at any time during the night to help with things (or will come over if certain alarms go off).

(I have a movement disorder and some other stuff in addition to being autistic, for reference.)

This means that I live alone but get a pretty high level of support throughout the day. I also now amazingly live down the hall from a friend, and she and I provide informal support to each other when our staff aren't available. (Both of us are both autistic and physically disabled, and we attempt to pool our assorted abilities to get things done.) It's really important to me to live alone, because I get so worn out by having to live with someone. But also really important to have the support or I just don't function. I actually get more support than many group homes provide, which is a good thing that they offer this support without making you live with people.

I live with my family, and I probably always will.

Alone in a very small self built house in a friend's backyard!