Stranger says "Its a horrible day today"

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I was in a shop and a stranger said "Its a horrible day today", she must have been talking to me as I was the only one arround. I said "ok", what should I have said to this? Why did she announce this? It was raining so it was obvious that it was a horrible day.

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Maybe she was trying to have a conversation. Being social.

this often happens to me at bus stops the fact im wearing a large pair of headphones obviously isnt enough of an indication I dont want to talk to people
It used to annoy me but then I realised that most of these people are older people who are in need of social contact a simple "Yeah its been desperate all week" or "Yeah the goverment are a shower of bastards" isnt that much effort for me nad seems to chear them up.

That doesn't sound 'horrible'! I love rainy weather far better than a sunny day and yet everyone will tell me its a 'beautiful' day when I think it is bad and they will say its a 'horrible' day when I think it is good. Oh well...

And yeah, NTs like pointing out the obvious; its how they start a conversation most of the time.

Well I would say "Yes it is, but the rain doesn't bother me really."

They pick a topic to brake the ice something that is common in the area your stud in or something they notice about you, unless you expand on "ok" you will chop the convo they and then...

same with yes and no answers if you answer the question with that you automaticly stop the convo...

Unless you use something to brake the ice a social conversation won't start or can be ended by not staying away from the 1 word answers, unless you add more than just the 1 word answer...


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"Unless you don't want to talk to people or listen to them, but then don't get angry when the other person does not want to talk to you or listen to you"

You answer with "Sorry but I am not really in the mood to talk today, sorry.." or somewhere near they..

I would have asked, "Why?" People who are NT don't normally say how they feel, and that is an outright declaration, since it is more than the typical "okay", "alright", "fine", or "good" or anything that has to do with weather.

Becuase that is personal information, and you are a stranger, only some tell how they feeling, as they expect you to read it without them telling you...

Sorry are you saying that Nt's do not reply in this way to the question of "How you are feeling?"

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Reason they mainly start a convo with you as they see a person that look's down in the dumps, so they be friendly to try and cheer you up by showing interest.
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Sure you heard people say things like " You know thing's can only get worse, but no reason to be down about it. "

I do not correct them on saying believe me you don't know why you see what you see in me, I can tell you it is allot worse than what your thinking it is about, coz I know they only trying to cheer me up…

Oddly enough, I find that really refreshing. All the "have a great day!"s and "hey little girl, smile!"s, get pretty old.

I'd have said something like: "Aye, terrible innit eh?" and smiled or something like that.

Yes, or "cheer up, it might never happen" Grrrrrr Last time someone said that to me I scowled and said "It already has"

I do that all the time when people say things to me.
The "Ok" is spurted out while in my mind there's the thought of what the f**k does this person want me to say, I dont care and I dont like social chit chat about nothing.
Then I laugh because for some reason I find it funny when I play it back in my head.
I'm even laughing now.

I'd just agree with her, and leave it at that.

"That's your opinion. Any other stupid observations or can I go back to ignoring you?"

Yes, it's very odd behavior for an NT.

To avoid further contact, I would have answered, "Quite." and moved along.

I suppose that sort of response is OK if you want to come across as an angry, divisive sort of person.

Wow, angry, really? I was going more for contemptuous, actually.
.... a lot of people seem to think I'm angry a lot, now that you mention it. I've had innumerable people tell me I look pissed/homicidal/mad when, really, I'm thinking of what to make for dinner or just thinking really hard about something.
My daughter's mentioned that some of her friends are a little leery of me as they think I'm ultramad about something, when, again, I'm more likely trying to remember where I left the attachments for the Cuisinart.
I actually had a guy at the bus stop the other day tell me to 'cheer up, it'll get better'. Caught me completely by surprise since I'd been mentally planning out what to do for dinner (had my folks over) and what I'd need/what I was out of.
Granted, I did tell him that he hadn't the slightest idea what the hell he was talking about and to please get the hell out of my personal space which was maybe a tad hostile, but still... random strangers making unwarranted assumptions about my mental state kinda ticks me off.